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Louise Hay’s Wisdom, Rebirth And Renewal

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Louise Hay’s Wisdom

Isn’t Spring, the season of rebirth and renewal, the perfect time to explore the transformative wisdom of Louise Hay?

We are celebrating the awakening of nature, and the fresh start that Spring brings.

Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or new to these ideas I’ll be sharing with you, I invite you to open your heart and mind and fully participate in this shared experience with a beginner mindset!

Spring is a powerful opportunity to reflect, release what no longer serves nor supports us, and plant seeds for a brighter future.

And who better to guide us on this journey than the incredible Louise Hay?

If you are new to her work, Louise Hay was a pioneer in the field of self-help and positive thinking.

Her message was simple yet profound – our thoughts create our reality, and by changing our thoughts, we can heal our lives.

Today, we’ll explore key aspects of her philosophies, focusing on how they align with the energy of Spring and support our mind, body, and spirit.

We have just celebrated the Spring Equinox, also known as the Vernal Equinox, which marks the moment when the sun crosses the equator, resulting in roughly equal amounts of daylight and darkness.

This signifies a time of balance and transition. Traditionally, this time has been celebrated across cultures as a time of fertility, renewal, and the return of life.

It’s a powerful opportunity to plant seeds of intention, both literally and metaphorically.

Just as nature wakes up, we too can awaken dormant aspects of ourselves, shedding what no longer serves us and supports us and embracing new possibilities.

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To connect with the energy of Spring, let’s begin by grounding ourselves in our bodies.

I invite you to move your body right now in any way that feels good to you before you read any further.

Feel the energy flowing through your body, releasing any stagnant energy and creating space for new growth.

In a world that often feels chaotic and bloody crazy, Louise Hay’s message of self-love and healing is more relevant than ever.

She taught us that our thoughts create our reality and that we have the power to heal ourselves from the inside out.

I’m going to take you through a few of her core philosophies, explore practical ways to apply them to our lives, and share some suggestions for reflection.

Whether you’re new to Louise Hay’s work or a long-time admirer, I hope you find this inspiring and empowering.

Please feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences by dropping me an email at hello@lizdoyle.net.

One of Louise Hay’s fundamental beliefs is that our thoughts shape our experiences. That what we think about and believe becomes our reality. This isn’t about magical thinking, but about recognising the power of our subconscious mind.

How often do you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk?

Stuff like:

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These thoughts, repeated over and over, become ingrained patterns that attract similar experiences. They literally wear a groove in your brain.

Louise urged us to become aware of our thought patterns and to consciously choose positive, empowering thoughts instead.

For example, instead of: “I’m always sick.”

Try: “I am open to vibrant health.”

Instead of: “I don’t deserve love.”

Try: “I am worthy of love and acceptance.”

It does take practice, but by shifting our thoughts, we can shift our reality.

Louise believed that our thoughts are like seeds, and affirmations are the fertile soil in which they grow.

Her very simple affirmation, ‘All is well in my world’, encapsulates her belief in the inherent goodness of life.

She taught us to affirm our worthiness, our health, and our happiness.

And isn’t Spring the perfect time to weed out those old, negative thoughts and plant new, positive ones?

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Oprah named Louise the Queen of Affirmations

Positive affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves, reinforcing desired beliefs. They’re like planting seeds in the soil of our minds.

To create effective affirmations, they need to be:

Positive – Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Present tense – Speak as if it’s already true.

Specific – Be clear about what you desire.

For example:

Repeat your affirmations throughout the day, especially when you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk. Write them down, say them aloud, or visualise them in your mind.

Over the years, affirmations have helped me completely transform my life.

Forgiveness and Letting Go

Another crucial aspect of Louise Hay’s work is forgiveness.

Holding onto resentment and anger blocks our energy and prevents us from moving forward. She stressed the importance of forgiveness again and again, not just of others, but also of ourselves.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning harmful behaviour. It means releasing the emotional burden that you’re carrying.

It’s about choosing peace over pain.

Letting go of the past allows us to create space for new, positive experiences. Spring is about letting go, and forgiveness is a powerful tool for releasing the past.

My course on Insight timer called “Louise Hay’s Forgiveness Sets Me Free!” may be of interest to you. You can check it out here.

And my meditations, also on the app: Louise Hay’s Affirmations for Forgiveness

and Louise Hay’s It’s Time to Forgive Yourself

All of these will really help you if you want to experience the freedom that forgiveness can bring.

“The List”

Louise Hay said “Every cell in your body responds to every single thought you think.”

She believed that our bodies are a reflection of our thoughts and emotions.

When we hold onto stress and negativity, it can manifest as physical ailments.

Spring is a time to reconnect with our bodies and honour their needs.

“I listen to the wisdom of my body”

Pay attention to your body’s signals. Are you giving it the nourishment, rest, and movement it needs? Spring is about revitalising our physical energy. Nature is waking up, and so can we.

Embrace fresh, seasonal foods, spend time outdoors, and move your body in ways that feel good.

Louise Hay believed that physical ailments are often linked to emotional and mental patterns.

Her worldwide best seller “You Can Heal Your Life” is a cornerstone of the self-help movement. And Chapter 15, “The List,” is such a valuable resource.

This is why it’s so powerful.

The fundamental principle is that our thoughts and emotions directly influence our physical health. “The List” serves as a guide to help us identify these connections.

The chapter provides a comprehensive list of common physical issues and their corresponding probable mental causes. By examining this list, we are encouraged to look inward and explore the emotional and mental patterns that may be contributing to our health challenges.

Alongside each potential cause, Louise offers positive affirmations designed to counteract negative thought patterns and promote healing. These affirmations are tools for reprogramming the subconscious mind and fostering a more positive and healthier outlook.

This is how “The List” Works:

The process involves honest self-reflection and a willingness to confront potentially uncomfortable emotions. It’s about taking responsibility for our own well-being and recognising the power of the mind to influence the body. The goal is to shift from negative, limiting beliefs to positive, empowering ones.

By consistently using the provided affirmations, we can gradually change our habitual thought patterns and create a more harmonious mind-body connection.

But please remember

While Louise Hay’s “The List” offers a framework for understanding potential emotional roots of physical ailments, it’s important to acknowledge that its correlations are not always applicable to everyone. Some individual experiences can vary significantly.

And please remember this too

“The List” is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice. It’s a tool for self-discovery and personal empowerment. The power of affirmations lies in their ability to rewire the subconscious mind and promote positive change.

I’m now going to ask you to consider if you experience any of the following health issues. Just simply acknowledge it for yourself, and perhaps consider the potential emotional connection Louise suggests.

Think about whether you experience any of these, and if so, what emotions might be connected:

Headaches/Migraines: (Related to invalidating the self, fear)
Sinus Problems: (Related to irritation to one person, someone close)
Neck Problems: (Related to refusal to see other sides of a matter, stubbornness)
Shoulder Pain: (Related to carrying a burden, shouldering the world)
Back Problems (Upper): (Related to lack of emotional support, feeling unloved)
Back Problems (Middle): (Related to guilt, stuck in the past)
Back Problems (Lower): (Related to financial fears)
Hip Problems: (Related to fear of going forward in major decisions)
Knee Problems: (Related to fear of the future, inflexibility)
Skin Problems: (Related to anxiety, fear, old buried stuff)
Digestive Problems: (Related to fear, dread, anxiety)
Heart Problems: (Related to long-standing emotional problems, lack of joy)

The goal is to encourage you to consider the mind-body connection and explore potential emotional roots of physical symptoms, as suggested by Louise Hay.

Louise taught us the importance of self-love, and forgiveness and a lot of other things too!!!

In essence, Chapter 15 of “You Can Heal Your Life” provides a practical framework for exploring the mind-body connection and taking proactive steps toward healing.

By addressing the underlying emotional issues, we can support our body’s natural healing process.

Remember, self-love is the greatest healer. When we love and accept ourselves unconditionally, we create an environment where healing can occur.

You can can get yourself a copy of this life changing book from Hay House Publishing, here.

Finally, let’s explore how Louise Hay’s philosophies can help us connect with our spirit, our inner peace.

“I am connected to the infinite source of love and wisdom within me.”

Louise was, of course, a metaphysical teacher, and she taught us that we are all connected to a higher power, a source of infinite love and wisdom. Spring is a wonderful time to deepen that connection.

And of course, meditation is the perfect practice to do that.

You may wish to check some of my meditations out on Insight Timer here – there are quite a few Louise Hay ones!

“I am at peace with myself and the world around me.”

Cultivating inner peace is essential for navigating life’s challenges. To deepen our connection to our spirit, let’s take some time for journaling and reflection.

Allow your inner wisdom guide you as you journal.

Spring is a time of balance, and by connecting with our spirit, we can find that balance within ourselves.

How can you integrate Louise’s teachings I’ve shared with you today into your life going forward?

What actions will you take to embody the principles of self-love, forgiveness, and positive thinking?

As we come to the end of our time together, I want to express my gratitude for your presence and your willingness to embrace the wisdom of Louise Hay. I also want to thank Louise Hay for always guiding us.

May this season of Spring be a time of profound transformation and renewal for you.

Remember, you are worthy of love, happiness, and abundance. Embrace the power of your thoughts and watch your life blossom.

I wish you a season of growth, joy, and balance.

And if you wish to find out more about how I work with clients, follow this link.

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Catching Cosmic Cues: Decoding “Driftwood” & Manifesting Your Dreams

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Manifesting your dreams: Cosmic Cues & Driftwood Signs Explained

Have you ever felt like the universe is trying to tell you something, but you’re just not quite catching the message? Like it’s whispering secrets in a language you haven’t learned yet?

Well, get ready to come along to the beach, because we’re about to dive deep into the delicious world of “driftwood” – a concept from the teachings of Abraham Hicks. It’s all about recognising the little nudges and winks the universe sends your way as you journey toward your desires.

Now, if you’re sitting there wondering, “Abraham who?” let me give you a quick intro. Esther Hicks is known for channelling a group of non-physical entities collectively called “Abraham.” Think of it like tuning into a cosmic radio station.

Abraham’s teachings revolve around the Law of Attraction – the idea that like attracts like. Basically, your thoughts and feelings are like magnets, pulling experiences into your life that match their vibrational frequency. Abraham helps us understand how to use this powerful law to intentionally create the life we dream of.

Esther describes her channelling process as tapping into “infinite intelligence.” She’s like a translator, turning the non-verbal communication from Abraham into words we can understand.

If you’re curious, check out more of Abraham Hicks’ work later on. It’s truly amazing stuff and I am a huge fan!

So, right now, we’re focusing on this fascinating concept of “driftwood.” Imagine you’re lost at sea, searching the horizon for land. Driftwood floating by would be a most welcome sign. It tells you that you’re getting closer.

In the world of manifestation, “driftwood” symbolises those very same signs and confirmations that you’re on the right track, moving closer to your desires.

Have you ever experienced those moments of uncanny synchronicity, where things just seem to fall into place? That’s driftwood!

It can show up in all sorts of ways: a song on the radio that perfectly echoes your situation, a chance encounter with someone who has exactly the advice you need, or even just a gut feeling that you’re heading in the right direction.

We’re going to explore how to recognise and interpret these subtle signs, how to boost your awareness of the vibrational guidance that’s always available to you, and how to use driftwood as a powerful tool to stay aligned with your dreams.

I can tell you from personal experience that the more I take notice of the driftwood, the closer it brings me to my desires and in the last 18 months, I can honestly say the most beautiful manifestations have been coming thick and fast.

Are you ready to unlock the universe’s treasure chest and create a life overflowing with joy, abundance, and fulfilment?

If so, let’s go to the beach!

Decoding the Driftwood: What Do These Signs Look Like?

Driftwood can manifest in a myriad of ways. Here are some common forms it might take – and be sure to share any that resonate with you by dropping me an email at hello@lizdoyle.net.

Seeing or hearing things related to your desires: Dreaming of a tropical vacation? Suddenly, you're seeing travel brochures, hearing ads for exotic destinations, and your friends are posting pictures of their amazing beach getaways. It's not just coincidence; it's driftwood!
Meeting people who can help you: You're trying to launch a new business, and out of the blue, you connect with a successful entrepreneur who offers to mentor you. Or maybe you're looking for a new job, and you bump into an old colleague who tells you about an amazing opening at their company. These chance encounters are often driftwood in disguise.
Experiencing unexpected good fortune: Finding a £20 note on the pavement, winning a small prize, or receiving a compliment that makes your day – these little moments of serendipity can be signs that you're in vibrational alignment. And isn’t serendipity such an abundant word?!!
Feeling inspired and motivated: That spark of excitement, that inner knowing that you're on the right path – that's your intuition whispering, "You're getting warmer!" When you're aligned with your desires, you'll often feel a sense of peace, joy, and anticipation.
Unexpected synchronicities: Seeing repeating numbers (like 11:11 or 22:22), hearing a song that perfectly captures your current situation, or meeting someone who unexpectedly offers valuable advice – these are all classic examples of driftwood.
Inner feelings of knowing: Trust your gut! That little voice inside that tells you, "Yes, this is it!" or "wait a little longer" is a powerful compass. We can learn to listen to it.
Opportunities and resources: A job offer that seems tailor-made for you, a financial windfall that comes at just the right time, or a connection to someone who can help you achieve your goals – these are all signs that the universe is always guiding and supporting you.

The key is to pay attention!

Driftwood can be subtle, and it’s up to you to recognise it. The more you focus on these signs, the more you’ll start to see them everywhere.

Catching the Wave – Recognising Momentum

Once you start noticing the driftwood, you’ll likely begin to feel a sense of momentum around your desires. It’s not necessarily that your dreams will instantly materialise (although sometimes they do!), but you’ll feel more connected, more supported by the universe. It’s like the universe is saying, “Yes, I hear you! You’re on the right track!”.

But remember, it can take time. If you don’t notice momentum right away, don’t get discouraged. You might just need to fine-tune your awareness and pay closer attention to the subtle signals you’re receiving.

Sometimes, we’re so caught up in our daily lives that we miss the whispers of the universe.

The Power of Perspective: Seeing Driftwood in Others’ Success

One of the trickiest aspects of recognising driftwood is when it appears in the form of other people having what you desire. Instead of feeling happy for them, you might feel a pang of envy or inadequacy.

You might think, “They have that, so I can’t.” Or “There’s not enough to go around.” These thoughts are completely normal, but they can also block your own manifestations.

The universe is always showing us examples of what’s possible. When you see someone else with what you want, it’s not a sign of lack; it’s a sign that you’re getting closer! It’s driftwood!

Let’s say you’re trying to manifest a romantic relationship, and you’re surrounded by happy couples. Instead of feeling lonely or resentful, choose to see those couples as driftwood. See them as evidence that love is all around you and that your own loving relationship is on its way.

This shift in perspective can be transformative. The more you see what you want in the world, the closer you become to attracting it into your own life. So, celebrate other people’s successes! Let their joy remind you of what’s possible for you.

Putting It Into Practice: A Two-Step Driftwood Decoder

Ready to start catching some cosmic cues? Here’s a simple two-step process to help you decode the driftwood in your life:

Step 1: Pay Attention to the Driftwood

This is the fun part! Go about your day with a sense of playful curiosity. Be open to noticing the little things that resonate with your desires.

Let’s say you’re manifesting a baby. Instead of feeling envious when you see pregnant women or babies, celebrate them!

Say to yourself, “Thank you, universe, for showing me this driftwood! My desire is on its way.” Do this every time you notice your desire showing up in any form. Shift your perspective from comparison to celebration. See it as abundance, not lack.

Step 2: Document the Driftwood

When you notice a piece of driftwood, write it down! Keep a journal specifically for this purpose. You can even share your discoveries with friends (as long as they’re on board with this whole cosmic vibe!).

Get excited about it! Join online communities, like my group on Insight Timer called Liz Doyle’s Gratitude And Support Group (here’s the link) and share your driftwood sightings with others.

The more you acknowledge and celebrate these signs, the more you’ll start to see them.

Maybe you’re manifesting a new home, and your friends move into their dream house. Instead of feeling discouraged, see it as driftwood. Your dream home is on its way!

Maybe you want to write a book, and you start seeing ads for writing courses and publishing resources. Pay attention to those signs! They’re driftwood guiding you toward your goal.

Watch out for those synchronicities, those “coincidences” that seem too perfect to be random. They’re not coincidences; they’re messages from the universe. Celebrate them, document them, and follow where they lead.

This is such a fun and empowering way to live! It’s so much more enjoyable than getting caught up in comparison or ignoring the signs altogether.

Be on high alert, pay attention, and enjoy the journey!

Make this a daily practice. Constantly celebrate the driftwood that appears in your life. It’s a huge step in your manifestation journey, and I hope you have a whole load of fun with it! I can’t wait to hear about all the amazing driftwood you discover!

Maybe you feel this piece I’ve shared here today is “driftwood”? If so, check out how you can work with me, here.

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Gently Step Into Your Power

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Step into your power

Do you ever feel you have given away your power?

Or was your power taken from you many years ago and you’ve never known how to properly claim it with grace?

Do you feel that the past can come along and trigger you and you feel you’re right back there in old patterns with the same old disempowering stories?

It happens to all of us, why do you think I’m sharing this blog?!!

Some “stuff” has been happening to me recently which inspired me to share this.

By the time you’ve finished reading this, I want you to feel empowered to put a voice to the trauma and the pain.

And to also embrace your shadow.

AND to feel that you are safe to gently step into your power whatever that means to you.

Let's start by defining what I mean by gently stepping into your power

It’s not about shouting from the rooftops or demanding attention.

It’s about a quiet inner strength, a knowing that allows you to make decisions with confidence, set boundaries, and pursue your goals with grace and determination.

But that ain’t always that easy is it?

It could the people closest to us who know how to push our buttons, just trigger us in some way.

Or it might be a long distant memory that comes roaring back into our lives, and it feels like we are being de-railed.

However, we can begin again and know that we are actually far further along our path than our minds can lead us to believe.

Let’s connect with the heart and open the heart to move through any feelings of hopelessness, isolation or disconnection.

Because you are not alone. I am here, with you and for you.

So, if something I share in this blog resonates, drop me an email as this is all part of the healing and digging down a little deeper than maybe you have ever done before.

If you’re reading this, right now, I believe your higher self, led you here.

Recently, I found myself right in the middle of a trauma response that left me falling into a black, bottomless well and this still isn’t easy to admit.

None of my tools were getting me out – my inner critic was working round the clock.

I was judging myself for being in that place, despite all that I know and all of the work I’ve already done and god dammit, I share in my coaching.

I felt like I was in a purgatory of not yet becoming my true self and I felt like a fraud.

I found myself standing still.

Not being able to do anything because I was so overwhelmed by the feelings of rejection, abandonment, and isolation.

Of course, I understand this all goes back to my childhood, but these feelings can still, albeit very rarely, rear their ugly heads and send me into a downward spiral of regret, shame, and guilt.

I decided to feel all the feelings after I did a bit of hiding and numbing and freezing!!

The biggest thing that came from it was I wanted to turn up here and share some of the pain because I know these trauma responses are not only experienced by me.

I know I’m not alone feeling lost in my trauma response even if I do feel alone and confused. Or am I?

I am gently reminding myself that it’s okay to trip over the rocks on my path from time to time.

I’m also reminding myself that it’s safe for me to stop rejecting the inner parts of myself that I dislike or even despise.

I want to accept my shadow self.

It’s not easy but that’s what loving myself completely is all about, isn’t it?

So, by meditating, reflecting, and listening to courses on Inside Timer, I realised this is all part of my healing.

I’m being called to get to that deep, deep old story.

And my soul is asking me to take a moment to process – to sit with it.

I am acknowledging these sensations and trying not to judge them and that is AS important as all the active work.

Recovering parts of myself is helping to bring me more clarity but it took me a while to know what to do next.

That’s why I’m here – I wanted to turn up with all of this rawness and vulnerability.

What is your story?

What is your trauma response?

Do you live your life thinking that you have to be strong and just get on with life?

It doesn’t really work, does it?

Through the years we can be repeating the patterns from our origin story, our childhood.

Does any of what I’m about to share resonate with you? If so, declare it because you’re owning that shadow.

Never feeling enough
Having no compassion for yourself
Beating yourself up with self-talk that doesnothing but disempower you (and that might be despite all the success you have achieved in your life)
Being engulfed by fear every single day
Feeling anxious
People pleasing
Never really feeling true happiness

Is it time to meet your shadows?

To feel the sadness, the fear, the anger, the shame, the regret, the guilt, the resentment…

Time to accept and feel all of those emotions?

Have true self-compassion?

Let go of judging yourself.

Actually, feeling pride for yourself and seeing who you really are?

It can be a painful process and yet a wonderful one.

Feeling truly connected and peaceful.

Being grateful and looking forward to being present in your life whether there is tragedy or happiness

Because you are never alone, even when you feel you are.

There is help if you are willing to trust and know that you are always worthy

What you have been burying so deeply and so successfully for so long is waiting to erupt.

You are uncovering those old stories that are deeply buried in your consciousness, in your body, that you might not even be really aware of.

As they are revealed, you will understand the roadblocks that are in your way.

We can't release what we don't know we're holding

Whether you have gone through a traumatic experience many, many years ago or quite recently you can come out the other side stronger understanding how you can stand in your own power.
You have the wisdom and the understanding within you.

It’s just about trusting yourself and listening to your heart, to your soul and to your higher self.

I definitely had the dark night of the soul recently and I haven’t been there in such a long time, and it was bad.

I felt I was coming undone but by sharing this with you, I am trusting that this is all part of my journey.

First of all though, we need to be patient and sit and meditate in our safe space.

That might be under your blankets and soft pillows and that’s okay. Wait and ask and meditate.

I came across this quote the other day and it really spoke to me:

“Don’t just do something, stand there.”

Originally said by the White Rabbit in Alice in Wonderland.

There is no rush to work it all out at once – trust the process.

Then when you’re ready, ask yourself :

Is the next cycle of my life ready to begin?

Are you ready to step gently into your power?

Learn to trust again and I know that’s not easy to do if you’ve left toxic situations or relationships. Healing those old wounds takes time, sometimes a long time, I know!

Listening to the shadow gives us great insights to our stories and our patterns.

For instance:

“I am worthless if I am abandoned”

means you hold onto the fear of abandonment to avoid your lack of self esteem.

Fill in the need for worthiness by discovering the root cause embedded in your childhood.

Allow this blog to feel like a warm, comfy blanket wrapping you up so that you feel safe and cared for and cherished.

What is choosing you right now?

Don’t force yourself to make a choice about what you want the rest of your life to be.

Just get curious about the little things that are entering your field of interest right now, even if they’re not screaming out loud:

“This is the thing – choose THIS thing now”

Sometimes this in between moment is about grieving for what you’ve lost. It’s about being curious without feeling the drag of indecision or shoulding all over yourself.

Be proud of yourself. Be proud of your strength even if you feel lost and lonely, be proud of yourself.

You can change your story one step at a time

So many of us have had experiences and situations that we had to navigate during our childhood with parents who may not have been able to express or understand emotions.

After years of maybe even hating yourself, you can discover that you are your rock and you always have been throughout your entire journey.

Keep going in healing and learning to love yourself first.

Going through deep, deep pain, a pain so unbelievably deep that you didn’t know you would survive, well, it can feel that we have touched the bottom.

But you did survive.

The pain might still be there but trust that it can transform into something so beautiful.

Learning to respect yourself and to just love yourself so that you can let go all these old patterns.

But to also love yourself and be compassionate with yourself when they might reappear from time to time because they sure can!!!

Your love for yourself is growing - trust me on that!

Filling your whole self with that love and expanding and connecting to everything, to moments of pure beauty, to moments of pure grace will become more and more frequent and will last longer and longer.

BUT it is okay if the deep pain rises back up to the surface now and again.

That shadow, does it ever completely go?

I don’t think it does, but life does become easier and more joyful the more we can love ourselves.

Have you shut yourself down throughout your life to keep the peace and you might still do it?

From your childhood and now as an adult?

If so, this is the time to break through this deep-seated pattern.

This is your time to honour your own intrinsic wisdom and guidance.

It is time to speak your truth when you feel it within you.

Asking for what you need and not shrinking back even if your request is met with resistance.

When you do this, you honour yourself.

It’s time to rescue that little girl who had no voice or ability to be herself.

It can take such a long time to allow the deepest truth to surface.

My old default position was to fall into depression and feel hopeless. That feeling came back to me recently and it was hard!

Early conditioning means we can learn very early on and have a very deep subconscious belief that we cannot be our whole self. That by showing up as your true self is just too much for others.

If you felt that way as a child, you might have learned to hide your true self away by all sorts of survival strategies.

Maybe you felt you could only show up as perfect or how others need you.

Somehow being your true self was and is overwhelming for others. Or you won’t get what you really want in life because you feel unworthy.

Do you have abandonment issues?

Dealing with abandonment issues takes time.

Lots of situations can trigger feelings of abandonment or rejection.

For example, when a partner just wants some time alone or maybe a short break with friends.

Fights can start and you didn’t mean to fight about it.

It’s hard to break old fear patterns but it is possible.

Do you feel that you have to live your life so carefully, so you never upset anyone?

And then do you feel you’ve lost your authenticity, your power, your true self?

If you have difficulty in grieving or maybe crying as part of your grief, can you give yourself permission to really let go?

Feel it and sit with it and tell yourself that you love yourself for feeling all of these raw emotions.

You can step into your power with grace by embracing all of your selves - give it your best shot

The light and darkness within you.

Maybe something small has shifted within you. Maybe you’re able to close your eyes and just be.

Allow the tears to roll down your face and find that connection within you if you need to.

Opening up your heart to these deep, trapped emotions and grief that you have been carrying sets you free.

Have your own back and follow through with loving yourself.

This is how you can step out of victimhood and into your own authentic self and your own power.

When you notice yourself shying away from loving yourself, allow yourself to spend time with both your inner little self and your higher self.

Walk through the world together

Why not have morning and evening check-ins?

In the morning with your higher self and tucking your inner child into bed at night. How does that sound?

I often find that what’s holding me back is me.

This part of me that thinks I’m not worthy and believes others over myself. This part of me that stops myself from taking action out of fear.

But nowadays, I repeat my affirmations and then take action with the fear and just let it be okay.

Are you ready to let go of the person that you felt your family has wanted you to be?

Are you ready to let go of their expectations of you?

Ready to let go of their perceptions and opinions of you?

Are these opinions even true of you?

Have you noticed that your story that you’ve been telling yourself is:

“My voice doesn’t matter, and no one cares”

The truth is your voice does matter and you care. Your inner being cares for you.

You can work on rewriting these stories and any others that come up throughout your life’s journey.

Allow your deep spiritual wisdom to resonate with your own soul.

So many of my shadows have been uprooted with some people in my life recently and that has been overwhelming to say the least.

Looking at all those buried parts with that victim mentality being a big one is bloody hard!

Figuring out how to acknowledge all these shadows, some of which I didn’t even know were there.

At times, it felt it was all too late.

But I’m trying to just take the wisdom I’ve gained and integrate it to my personal growth, at the very least, and carry that forward.

Accepting accountability and stepping out of the cycles I’ve perpetuated.

When we have or had parents or care givers that weren’t there for us emotionally, it’s difficult to charter a course in life, isn’t it?

We see these patterns repeat themselves in our lives then it takes time to understand what’s going on.

It could be that you married the same kind of person and just kept excusing their behaviour for:

“What could I have done differently, so he wouldn’t behave that way?”

And it can also be so strange to have made so many changes on this self-love journey and others seem to have remained exactly where they were.

Here’s a little reminder – who you are is important and how you feel is important. Just hold on to that.

After you’ve finished reading this today, I’m going to suggest dancing with your shadow.

Now this could be to a favourite track that means a lot to you or if you’ve come across 5 Rhythm Dancing.

This is all about transformation and healing that might be for you and although I don’t know much about it, I will be investigating it further.

Slow down and Dance

Slowing down might be difficult for you but it’s necessary!

We can learn to slow down and listen to our inner wisdom and listen for guidance so that we can act and not just react.

We are responsible for our own self-care because if we don’t care for ourselves this is just another trauma response which puts us back into victimhood.

Say out loud if you can:

It’s time to learn

It’s time to transform

It’s time to heal

It’s time slow down

It’s time to laugh, shout and cry

It’s time to dance with my shadow… instead of running away from my shadow again and again… or recreating or attracting drama

Time to feel my emotions

Time to tell my story

To tell my truth

It’s time to rest

Nothing to do, just breathe.

Discover your own path that resonates with your innermost self and pursue it wholeheartedly.

Recover the missing pieces of yourself.

Trust the journey – the destination reveals itself in time, when you are ready to see it.

Make your richest relationship the one you have with yourself

Life can feel overwhelming at times and it’s easy to forget that relationship with ourselves.

We juggle responsibilities, navigate relationships, and wrestle with self-doubt.

It’s easy to feel powerless, like we’re being swept along by currents beyond our control.

But we all have the power within us to shift gears, take the wheel, and chart our own course with grace and gentleness.

This can be as simple as starting each day with a gentle check in with yourself.

“How am I feeling today? What do I need?”

It can look like setting boundaries, practising self-care and being kind to yourself in your thoughts and in your actions.

It’s the small things practised daily that create a full picture of self-love.

I shared this amazing piece from Brené Brown on my:

Open Your Heart 10 Day Challenge

on Insight Timer and I thought it was perfect to share here.

MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED

“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers

than those of us who are willing to fall

Because we have learned how to rise

With skinned knees and bruised hearts.

We choose owning our stories of struggle,

Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us.

When we run from struggle, we are never free.

So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.

We will not be characters in our stories.

Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives.

We write our own daring endings.

We craft love from heartbreak,

Compassion from shame,

Grace from disappointment,

Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power.

Story is our way home.

Truth is our song.

We are the brave and broken-hearted.

We are rising strong.”

– Brené Brown

Such a beautiful piece…

Gently stepping into your power and owning your voice doesn’t happen on that one occasion, it’s a continuous journey.

There will be bumps along the road, sometimes bloody big ones!

But by staying committed to your growth and your authentic self, you can truly shine your light on the world.

Remember, you are worthy, you are capable, and you have the power to create a life you deserve.

Much love.

Are you interested in working with me? Check out my work with me page for more info, or contact me.

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Gratitude for The Good, The Bad, Or The Ugly

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How can we feel grateful for the good, the bad or the downright ugly? Gratitude for a bad day, a bad week or a really bad month seems crazy sometimes doesn’t it?

BUT we can try to practise feeling gratitude for all of the situations in our lives. Even really challenging situations can contain important lessons that are linked to our growth and our capacity to receive abundance. Your intentions will occur in divine timing, not necessarily your timing.

When we practise gratitude, more and more magical moments and divine synchronicities can show up in our lives. By letting go of expectations and embracing appreciation for the present moment, we can experience the benefits of gratitude every day. Worrying too much about the past or future can have negative effects on our mental health, making it essential to practise letting go.

How can we let go and cultivate genuine gratitude for the good, the bad or the ugly?

We’ve all been there, clinging to things that no longer serve us, whether it’s a grudging job, a toxic relationship, or even just a negative thought pattern. But holding onto baggage weighs us down, preventing us from experiencing the joy and abundance that life has to offer.

Letting Go – Releasing the grip of what no longer serves you

Where do we begin with letting go? It’s not about pretending negativity doesn’t exist, but rather acknowledging it and gently releasing its hold on us.

Here are some ways to start:

Mindfulness – Take a moment to observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Notice what brings you down and then, with conscious intention, release it. Imagine it as a balloon floating away into the sky.

Journaling – Write down your worries, fears, and frustrations. Putting them on paper can help you process and release them. Then safely burn or tear up the paper symbolically letting go.

Forgiveness – Holding onto grudges is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. Forgive those who have wronged you, not for them, but for your own inner peace.

Acceptance – Sometimes, things just don’t go our way. Instead of fighting against reality, practise acceptance. Accept what is, and then see what possibilities open up. I have found this practice so powerful.

What would you like to let go of?
What thoughts are holding you back?
What feelings and emotions are making you feel stuck?

What practice from the ones I shared might help you? Mindfulness; Journaling; Forgiveness; Acceptance

How can you cultivate gratitude when life throws you lemons?

We all know those times when happiness feels like a distant memory, and the weight of the world seems to be on our shoulders. But even in the midst of hardship, there’s often a flicker of light, a reason to be grateful.

Let’s have a look at the power of gratitude and how it can be a source of strength and resilience even when life feels tough.

The Challenge of Gratitude in Difficult Times

Let’s be honest, feeling grateful when life is bloody hard can feel downright absurd.

When we’re facing financial struggles, relationship breakdowns, health issues, or any other kind of adversity, the last thing we want to do is count our blessings. It’s natural to feel angry, frustrated, and overwhelmed.

So, why even bother with gratitude in these moments? I’ve been there myself. A few years ago, it felt like everything was falling apart. I was putting a brave face on everything for my family, but I was in such a dark place. Just functioning really, when I look back – it was very dark.

But in the middle of all that darkness, I was recommended to start a practice that helped me so much. Every day, I’d force myself to write down three things I was grateful for, no matter how small. It could be something as simple as a warm cup of tea in bed, a beautiful sunset, or a walk with my dog.

At first, it didn’t feel real at all. But gradually, something shifted. My focus started to move away from the negativity and towards the little pockets of good that still existed in my life.

This highlights something very important – gratitude isn’t about ignoring the bad things. It’s about acknowledging them while also choosing to appreciate the good that still exists, even in very small doses.

The Science of Gratitude

But gratitude isn’t just about feeling warm and squishy. There’s a growing body of research that shows the real, tangible benefits of practising gratitude. Studies have shown that gratitude can:

boost our mood
improve our sleep
strengthen our relationships
even increase our resilience in the face of stress and adversity.

Gratitude activates a specific reward pathway in the brain, releasing feel-good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. This, in turn, can lead to a more positive outlook, increased motivation, and a stronger sense of well-being. Additionally, focusing on the good things in our lives can help us change the way we view challenges and setbacks, making them seem less daunting and more manageable.

It’s good to know that there is actual science behind why feeling grateful makes us feel better!

How To Cultivate Gratitude in Hard Times

Okay, so we know that gratitude is good for us, even when life is hard. But how do we actually cultivate it when negativity feels like it’s taking over?

Here are a few practical tips:

Start Small

Don’t try to force yourself to be grateful for really big things. Begin with simple things, like the taste of your favourite food, your morning shower, or the feeling of sunlight on your face.

A gratitude meditation might be a helpful way to start small. There are an awful lot of guided Gratitude meditations out there. I have one on Insight Timer, and it also incorporates the teachings of Louise Hay so even more to love! It’s called Louise Hay Gratitude Meditation, would you believe!

Here’s the link for you to access it

Keep A Gratitude Journal

Spend a few minutes each day writing down three things you’re grateful for. This can be a powerful way to train your brain to focus on the positive. If it helps, you can join my group on Insight Timer – Liz Doyle’s Gratitude & Support Group and here’s the link to join. It helps me to keep to a daily gratitude practice.

Express Your Gratitude

Tell the people you care about what you appreciate about them. Not only will this make you feel good, but it will also strengthen your relationships. The power of a simple “thank you” can be quite incredible.

Focus On The Small Wins

Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how big or small. This will help you build a sense of confidence and optimism.

Maybe you already practise gratitude on a daily basis. If so, I’d love to hear what your practice is. Why not drop me an email and let me know; hello@lizdoyle.net. And if you don’t, has this article inspired to start? Again, let me know.

A Message of Hope

Remember, it’s okay not to feel grateful all the time. Life can be messy and it’s perfectly normal to experience a range of emotions. But when you’re feeling down, try to give gratitude a chance. You might be surprised at the difference it can make. Even the smallest spark of appreciation can be a powerful source of strength and resilience in the face of adversity.

When we focus on what we’re thankful for, even in the midst of challenges, our outlook starts to shift. We start to see the beauty and abundance that surrounds us. Because it really does.

Remember, letting go and cultivating gratitude are not one-time events, but ongoing practices. The more we do them, the easier they become and the more joy and peace we experience in our lives.

I Have A Call To Action For You

I encourage you to take some time to really experience letting go and cultivating gratitude. By doing so, not only will you lift yourself up, you will lift others up. You will be creating a ripple effect of positivity in the world!

And this affirmation is something I live by:

Gratitude brings more to be grateful about. Today I am grateful
Louise Hay

I hope you found some inspiration in cultivating gratitude for the good in your life, the bad and maybe even the ugly.

It might be that although this is all very inspiring, you feel you need some deeper work to help you to truly love and accept yourself which you know is what is holding you back in life. If so, why not have a look at how you can work with me, here.

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Do You Want An Abundant Year?

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Of course, we all want an abundant year, don’t we but….

The new year can be a slow start, especially here in the northern hemisphere. It’s bloody cold, and with those dark mornings, how can we really rev those engines to get going in 2024?

Maybe you’re feeling tired and lazy from too much food or a lot of family time, and it’s okay to do nothing for a few days.

It’s really important to take enough time to relax and replenish, and not work until you’re close to burnout. But that’s easier said than done, at different times in our lives. Whether it’s due to work commitments, looking after our children or maybe ageing parents who we need to care for more and more.

We really don’t need the New Year hype to create a happy and abundant year. I mean, most of us don’t get in the groove until the second week of January anyway.

So, when’s the best time to set your intentions for 2024?

When you do it! That’s when.

Please don’t worry if you feel like you’re having a slow start to the year, there’s plenty of time. There is no need to rush.

I’m not a fan of New Year resolutions or making hard and fast goals but you may well know that already!

Setting Intentions for An Abundant Year

But the New Year is such a perfect time for us to see what is to be released, what is to be kept and improved, and what is to be brought in. And you can take the whole of January to do that. There are another 11 months after this one even though, we will all be saying “Happy Christmas” before we know it!

So if you’re ready to look at what you have learnt and are moving on from last year and setting your intentions for an abundant year ahead, then I have a few ideas to share.

The best way to welcome in a new year is to be thankful and accept where we are before bringing ourselves into the energetic flow for a fantastic and abundant 2024. It’s natural to look at things that didn’t happen last year or things that you didn’t do. Maybe relationships that came to an end, or other events that you perceive as being negative

But I challenge you to shift your thinking about last year so that you can set yourself up for a fulfilling year, this year.

Are you ready to draw that line in the sand?

In your notebook or journal I’d like you to answer these questions to help with the whole process. Don’t worry if you don’t have answers for the questions. They are just prompts to see what comes up for you. There is no wrong or right way of doing any of this. Trust that you are always being guided.

What shall I now release from my life?

What am I holding on to that holds me back?

How am I being unloving to myself?

When we put pen to paper and write the words, it brings the thought from the mental and spiritual awareness into the physical realm of awareness.

Here’s a few more questions to ask yourself and write the answers in your notebook or journal:

How was last year healing?

What did I learn about myself?

How far have I come?

Now, I would like you to write down 5 successes you had in 2023. If you’re one of those people who tends to beat yourself up and think you don’t have any successes, I would urge you to write 2 or 3 for now and maybe spend time later adding to it.

It’s always easy for us to give ourselves a hard time, but you’ve probably achieved far more than you think, and you deserve the credit.

It could be that you have really started loving yourself more and you take more care of yourself. It could be something in your personal development that you’ve reached a new awareness about yourself.

Magic always happens on the other side of awareness

At the very least — you survived — so write that down! Hurrah!

This exercise is very powerful so please, don’t skip it.

The trick is setting intentions that feel authentic to who you are and promise to bring real change to how you approach every aspect of your life. You can take as long as you need to, to reflect on your New Year’s intentions. Intentions truly have no limit.

Now, remind yourself that you are welcoming in this year with love and joy, knowing, as Louise Hay would say:

“that what we give out comes back to us multiplied “

I have a few more prompts for you to answer in your journal:

How do I want this year to be?

How abundant in every area of my life do I want to feel?

How much love am I willing to experience?

Louise Hay said “let something go and try something new”. She always inspired others by how she was continually learning and was always ready to try new things. Let’s be inspired to try something new this year. What will be your something new?

Your New Life Story For An Abundant Year

For you to create your new life story so that you can welcome abundance in all areas of your life this year, I have a few ideas to help you establish a routine. These include talking with your Inner Child, Mirror Work and creating powerful affirmations.

At first, it does take some energy and focus to establish a routine that includes your daily self-growth work. But, once you have a routine established it becomes so easy to continue it. It becomes a habit. A habit that can empower you every day of the year and your life.

So create that sacred space just for you and connect with your vision and inner wisdom over the next couple weeks. Let go of being reactive and in survival mode and open up to receiving abundance in your life.

Are you saying YES to having the year you truly want? Because it’s here for you.

So no more New Year resolutions or making hard and fast goals for me.

However, what I do believe in, is committing to working on you! Working on your limiting beliefs, unresolved emotions, feelings of not enoughness or too muchness.

You may have a few blocks in relation to your work, your relationships, your health, your finances, your body, your love life.

So, the number one thing you can do to feel more abundant this year is to work on your mindset and beliefs about what you deserve. This means digging into those old stories and patterns that shape your relationship with yourself and the world around you.

A good place to start is to follow me on Insight Timer where you can find my recorded content and live event schedule.

Here’s the link

Maybe you’re ready to make a big shift in your life, to up-level every area of your life.

2024 can be a great year, your year.

And you don’t need to change who you are. By loving yourself more and more, you can create the life you have always deserved.

It’s here for you.

If you feel in your soul that this is the next right step on your path of transformation, then just follow this link to find out how you can work with me.

This work may be calling your name, but it’s a big decision! I get that.

So, why not meet me on a private Zoom call and I’ll answer any questions you have about the different ways you can work with me. I would love to meet with you face to face and help you decide if this is your next right step.

There will be no pressure, no pitching, just connecting with you to figure out what’s right for YOU.

Here’s the link to book in that call

I look forward to hearing from you.

Remember, this is your year no matter what ♥️

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End Of Year Ritual

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As the year draws to a close, I invite you to join my End Of Year Ritual which I want to be both meaningful and memorable for you.

Many cultures and traditions hold special rituals to honour the end of one year and the beginning of another. These rituals provide a way for us to express gratitude for the good things that have happened and to learn from the difficult experiences. AND to connect with your soul and your dreams for 2024.

What is the purpose of an End Of Rear Ritual?

First of all, it’s an opportunity to reflect and show your gratitude for what has been and for what you have. Rituals can help us to reflect on the past year, both the positive and negative experiences.

Rituals can also help us to accept where we are, and to let go of negative emotions and forgive ourselves and others. This can be so liberating and free up space for new positive experiences to enter our lives.

An end of year ritual can help us to set intentions for the new year where we can completely focus on what we want to bring into our lives.

Here are some examples of different End Of Year Rituals:

Ceremonies: Ceremonies can be formal or informal, but they typically involve a gathering of people to perform a ritual together. Some common ceremonies include burning incense, lighting candles, or making offerings.

Journaling: Journaling can be a powerful way to reflect on the past year and set intentions for the future. You can write about your accomplishments, challenges, and intentions for the coming year.

Meditation and mindfulness: Meditation and mindfulness can help us to connect with our inner selves and release negative emotions which can make space for the new year.

Creative activities: Creative activities such as painting, drawing, or writing can be a way to express our emotions and intentions for the future.

Here are a few ideas for creating your own End Of Year Ritual

Choose a time and place that is sacred and meaningful to you. This could be your home, a place in nature, or even a spiritual centre of some kind.

Gather any materials that you need for your ritual, such as candles, incense, writing materials or Palo Santo to burn.

You can also create a vision board or write down your intentions for the new year. You may wish to create an Abundance Altar.

Spend some time reflecting on the past year. Take time to think about the things you are grateful for, the challenges you have faced, and the lessons you have learned.

Let go of what no longer serves you. If there are any negative emotions, limiting beliefs, or people in your life that are holding you back, write them down on a piece of paper and burn it.

You can set a specific intention for your ritual. This could be to let go of the past, welcome the new year, or set intentions for the coming year.

Follow your intuition and create a ritual that feels right for you. There are no rules, so feel free to experiment and find what resonates with you. You want it to help you feel centred and connected to your vision for the future.

Here is your invitation to my End Of Year Ritual

If this all seems quite a lot of work and you’re a member of the amazing Insight Timer, then why not join my very special End Of Year Ritual on Friday 29th December at 5:00m (UK time). Here is the link to register.

Insight Timer is home to meditations, live events and courses run by coaches and other mental health care professionals from around the world. It is free for the vast majority of their meditations but this kind of event is a member only option but at approximately £8 a month, the app has an absolute treasure trove of content to offer from the most amazing teachers, not just me!!!

Although I won’t be able to see you for the Ritual, I would encourage you to dress in your most favourite or sparkly or abundant feeling attire for the occasion.

When we come together in this sacred space, we are able to tap into a collective field that can inspire and supercharge your vision for next year. It can then give you the power to take the next steps. Together we are so much stronger!

Whether 2023 has been challenging or completely expansive or just a bit meh, the end of the year is a perfect time to go inwards and listen to the whispers of your soul. Because it is always whispering to you.

This End Of Year Ritual offers you the opportunity pause, be still and deeply listen to the wisdom of your body and your heart. I would love to have you join me.

Want to find out a little more about me? Then follow this link for an introduction.

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“ As I say yes to life, life says yes to me! ” Louise Hay

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How do you feel when you say or just read this affirmation from the legendary and so inspirational Louise Hay, “ As I say yes to life, life says yes to me! ”?

Does it feel true for you? I know with all the stuff that goes on in life and everything going on around us, life doesn’t feel like it’s saying yes to us. I mean, did you read my last blog (link is here)?!!!! But then, are we always saying yes to life? 🤔

Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a place of complete surrender, a place where you profoundly trust that you’re being taken care of by a Universal power at every moment?

To live with certainty that the Universe is really out to support you. That it’s on your side and has your back.

I know that seems like a big stretch to believe 24hours a day / 7 days a week / 365 or even 366 days a year. But let’s lean into it just for the moment.

We often try so hard to control everything in our lives that we forget the power of putting our faith in the Universe, and in letting go.

But once you get into the habit of doing all that you can from your human experience and trusting when you get that intuitive message “it’s time to let go and surrender to a Higher Power that is also a part of us” and you actually do it, you’ll begin experiencing a deep sense of peace and of well-being.

Our highest good can come from surrender.

I don’t mean the kind of surrender as in losing a battle surrender, but as in letting go of our own personal limitations and aligning totally with an intelligence and an energy that’s greater than ourselves and yet, that is also part of us.

If we can do this, we can be in a state of saying yes to the Universe.

When we say yes to the Universe, we enter into a state of trust that whatever our situation is, we can work with it. We express confidence in ourselves, and the Universe, and we also express a willingness to learn from whatever comes our way, rather than running and hiding when we don’t like what we see.

Basically, instead of saying no and resisting everything that’s happening, simply say “yes”.

When you say yes, it’s like being a trapeze artist – you’re able to let go of the trapeze you’re holding on to, and sail through the air towards the next one. Without letting go and trusting the next one is there, forward motion just isn’t impossible.

It’s surrender and trust that creates a feeling of flow in every moment.

Now, I know that sometimes things happen that are NOT the way we want them, and believe me, that happens to me too. It’s as if we have to let go a bit before the hands of the other trapeze artist are there to catch us, but I also know that there’s an intelligence in the Universe that’s bigger than us and yet part of us.

An intelligence that can see things in ways that we can’t.

An intelligence that just wants you to hear it when it’s telling you, “Don’t worry, I’ve got this one.”

I now invite you to try this exercise.

It’s an exercise of acting from saying yes to what the Universe brings you and being led by your soul surrendering throughout the day.

This is an exercise that has been adapted from A Course in Miracles, and here’s what you do:

At the beginning of your day, close your eyes for just a moment, and take a few deep breaths, and offer these three questions to the Universe:

What would spirit have me do today?

Where would spirit have me go today?

What would spirit have me say and to whom?

And then, as you move through your day, use the answers that come to you as your inspiration from spirit, and simply say yes to whatever those answers are, trusting life’s unfolding.

And if you get stuck, ask the questions again.

When you act on the intuitive answers that show up and follow them trusting that spirit is guiding you and has your back, you’ll find yourself living more and more in a state of flow.

I’m reminding myself that it’s safe for me to say “yes” to the Universe more and more in my life and well, it has been miraculous sometimes. I’m not saying I always manage it. After all, I am human!

If you haven’t come across Louise Hay before, why not have a look at this video?

Let me know when you have said yes to the Universe and just surrendered, and how the Universe had your back. Email me via my contact page, I would love to hear about the beautiful synchronicities that have happened when you used Louise Hay‘s affirmation; “ As I say yes to life, life says yes to me! ”.

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When Life Goes Wrong

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Sometimes it feels like one bad thing happens after another. I mean, one bad thing happens and then another bad thing happens and then another bloody bad thing happens.

That was me last week – yes, it happens to me too.

I was poodling along feeling so grateful for all the blessings in my life and then something happened on Monday which was pretty awful. The interesting thing was my trauma response was to go bed. Yes, when life goes very wrong – bury your head under the duvet and scream!!!

“What had I done wrong?” I asked myself.

“How had I brought this on…?”

After a lot of crying (and I mean a lot) screaming, swearing and getting support from my dearest friends and family, I soothed myself with –

“the universe has your back; this happened because something much better is on its way”.

So over the week, I picked myself up, dusted myself off and got back in the game of life.

By Friday, I was feeling good! Zumba, working with clients and even doing sweet little live events on Insight Timer and with my private FB community.

And then BOOM 💣💥 – Friday afternoon another pretty awful thing happened and then Friday evening, yes, you guessed it, another bloody awful thing happened.

Woah, I was in a bit of a state by the time I went to bed. Well, you know what, I wasn’t! I realised that the universe had been guiding me and helping to work through these issues and it was all happening for a reason.

You see, I now have tools 👩🏼‍🏭🛠🗜🔩🧰

Tools, to help me come out of the fight or flight mode.

Tools to help me to calm my traumatised nervous system.

Tools to help me lower my cortisol levels while raising my vibration.

I’m not saying it’s necessarily easy but it does definitely work.

I’m now back in a place of trust and knowing as Abraham Hicks says

“things are always working out for me (even when they don’t feel like they’re working out for me!)”.

The world feels like a crazy place at the moment – there is so much fear about the cost of living crisis and devastating conflict in different parts of the world. It’s easy for so many of us to retreat into that place of foreboding and crippling feelings of lack and I’ll say it again, fear.

What to do when life goes wrong… Badly!

If you’re in this situation or someone in your life is, some or all of the following points might help you / them. This is what helped me last week and really, any time I revert back into my “old self” of trauma induced paralysis.

Scream, yes scream! If you’re in an environment that you can safely do this and you won’t scare the bejesus out of anyone near you. This gets it out of your body. You’re not trying to bury the emotions – you’re literally giving them a voice which is always so much better for you than squashing it all down.
Bash some pillows or cushions. Again, this is getting the anger out of the body and benefits you in much the same way as screaming but I recommend both. Louise Hay swore by giving pillows a good old bash on a regular basis even if she felt angry or not – she wrote about how buried feelings of anger and distress are so damaging to us in every way and this exercise gets it out.
Talk to someone you can trust and who won’t judge you. This is really important. You need support from someone who is there for you. Someone who won’t criticise you (even subtly) or tell you what to do. They will just listen. These people are priceless so don’t ever let them go!!
Allow yourself to feel s**t. It is what it is AND you are where you are AND you feel how you feel. You’re allowed to have these feelings. We often start telling ourselves that we’re out of control or feel guilty for being so upset. This is often linked to childhood messages from our care givers, trying to get us to calm down and sometimes in not a very kind way. Embrace these feelings because the quicker you allow yourself to feel s**t, the quicker you will start to feel better.
FORGIVE yourself. Maybe some of what has happened is because of something you did or didn’t do. There is no point in blaming yourself and adding to the pile of crap you’re already feeling. And I think you know that. If you catch yourself berating yourself, just STOP. Stop right where you are and forgive yourself. Or at the very least say, “I am willing to forgive myself”. Life happens and this is a reminder that you are human and humans make mistakes.
Do nothing. You don’t have to decide anything straight away. You probably don’t have to react immediately, so don’t. It won’t help the situation none! Sit with it, absorb the information and go through the steps above. You don’t have to react when your cortisol levels are through the roof. I believe we are always being guided, so sit with it as best you can for now.
Praise yourself. I know, this sounds bonkers and yes it’s probably not easy to do straight away but if you’re like a lot of humans out there, you’ve probably gone through a fair bit in your life and you’re here to tell the tale. So, praise yourself for that! You have survived 100% of your worst days and you’re still here – maybe not smiling right now but you’re down, not out. Remind yourself of that – YOU ARE AMAZING. Yes, I say this to myself.

Now, what to do when you start to feel a bit better?

When the worst of the feelings start to abate, then what can you do?:

Meditation. You can sit and just breathe in and out slowly, counting on the in and out breath. I have shared lots of ideas on meditating in previous blogs. I meditate every single day and especially when I am facing challenges like this last week. My preferred go to is a guided meditation on that particular topic and there are 100’s to choose from on Insight Timer. I’m a teacher on the app now or have a look at my YouTube channel.
Tapping. EFT/Tapping is an incredible tool to help me lower any feelings of overwhelming stress and to reset my nervous system back to a calmer and more self-nurturing place. One of my favourites, is Tapping with Brad and here’s a great video on overwhelm.
Gratitude. No matter how bad life can get, there is always something that we can feel grateful about. But I know, it’s not that easy to do because, well, you just feel rubbish. But by slowly introducing or re-introducing (if you’ve lapsed a bit) a gratitude routine, you will not only help your wellbeing, mentally and physically, but you will start to have more to be grateful about. It is such a great way to raise your vibration. You are very welcome to join my small Gratitude & Support Group by joining my private FB group, Love Yourself – Women Inspiring Women. So, what are you grateful for today and, again, you can start small?
De-cluttering. I don’t mean housework! I mean intentionally clearing out something in your home, car, case or bag for the purpose of making way for something new. I am an enormous fan of decluttering and I’ve talked about it before with regard to manifesting abundance. In the last few days, I have been ritually burning some confidential papers that needed to go but I just hadn’t got round to doing it. The feeling of relief and release has been so profound. Start small but start – just start somewhere.
Get Yourself a God Box! I’m not a fan of the word God because it has been misused and abused by religions for millennia. I prefer Universe, Spirit even Goddess but God Box has such a great ring to it don’t you think? I have come across this before but I am currently working my way through Tosha Silver‘s wonderful book, “It’s Not Your Money” and she explains it all so well. Get yourself any kind of box (you choose how fancy or not) and write down on a piece of paper your burden. It can be about any subject at all (not just money) and offer it up to the Divine by popping it in the box. You can even say “I hand this to you Divine and I ask for the right actions to be shown to me”. Then do your best to forget about it! I found a lovely pink box to be my God Box and I already have 4 burdens in there 😊.

These are a few ideas of how you can help yourself when life goes wrong. I’m sure you might have a few tools of your own but sometimes, we just need a little reminder and that’s what this can be for you.

I hope that reading about my own authentic feelings shows you that life is a work in progress. We ALL have our stuff. But you might be in a place where your feelings run much deeper. You might think that it’s time to put YOU first. If so, have a look at what my coaching involves.

Just remember, you are never on your own and there is always support and guidance all around us.

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Books That Changed My Life

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I’ve read a lot of books in my life, but there are a few that have had a profound impact on me. These books have changed my life! These books have helped me to heal, to grow, and to live a more fulfilling life – a happier life. I would like to list more but we need to start somewhere with the top 5.

I am sharing links for you to buy the books from Amazon but if you prefer to support the circular economy; this is a link for World of Books and you might be able to get a used book in excellent condition.

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

If you have read any of my previous blogs and checked out my website, you will know that Louise Hay was pivotal in completely changing my life around. I first listened to her on YouTube and it was as if she was speaking directly to me! Although this book was not the first one that introduced me to the power of positive thinking, it was the most insightful. It really introduced me to positive affirmations in a big way and led me to finding out more and to eventually training to become licensed to share Louise’s timeless teachings.

You Can Heal Your Life helped me to see that I was creating my own reality with my thoughts and beliefs. Once I started to change my thoughts, I really started to see positive changes in my life. That the power of loving yourself changes everything. You could say it’s the reason I became a Positive Change Coach.

Here is the link to buy the book from Amazon but you may find a copy from World of Books too (link above).

The Power Is Within You by Louise Hay

This book is a sequel to You Can Heal Your Life, and it goes even deeper into the power of the subconscious mind. Although I adored You Can Heal Your Life, I actually preferred The Power is Within You. It taught me how to identify and change the negative beliefs that were holding me back.

As I said, it goes even deeper into the power of positive thinking than You Can Heal Your Life. It teaches you how to use affirmations, visualisation, and other techniques to create the life you want. This book has helped me to stay positive and, and it has helped me to manifest many of the things I’ve wanted in life.

Here is the link to buy it from Amazon but you may find a copy from World of Books too.

Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks

What can I say about Abraham Hicks!!! Another find on YouTube and I still go back to those videos when I need to remind myself that “things are always working out for me”! This book is all about the Law of Attraction, and it taught me how to use my thoughts to attract the things I want into my life. It was another game-changer for me, and it helped me to manifest many of my dreams.

This book showed me that I am responsible for my own thoughts and emotions, and that I can change my life by changing my thinking. It helped me to overcome many of the challenges I was facing at the time. I think Abraham Hicks deserves its own blog so I’ll be sharing more soon.

Here is the link to buy the book from Amazon but you may find a copy from World of Books too (link above).

Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff

This wonderful book is about the power of positive emotions, and it taught me how to cultivate a more joyful and optimistic outlook on life. It helped me to see that happiness is a choice, and that I can choose to be happy no matter what is going on in my life.

After reading the book, I then joined Your Year of Miracles where I learnt life is full of miracles even if we don’t always think so!

Here is the link to buy it from Amazon but you may find a copy from World of Books too.

Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield Thomas

So this is the last one in my top 5 books that changed my life. It is such an easy and fun read (and listen as I often also buy books on Audible) with lots of humour. The book is about how to create a successful business without burning yourself out. It taught me the importance of taking care of myself, both physically and mentally. It also helped me to set boundaries and to say no to things that were not a good fit for me.

After reading and listening to Chillpreneur, I started following Denise and eventually joined her Money Bootcamp which has turned out to be another life changing experience!

Here is the link to buy the book from Amazon but you may find a copy from World of Books too (link above).

These are just a few of the books that have changed my life. Don’t get me wrong, I still face challenges but I now have the tools and the presence within me to bring myself back to this moment and to be very gentle with myself as I charter those waters. I am really grateful to the authors who shared their wisdom with me, and I am so glad that I found these books when I did. They have helped me to become a happier, healthier, and more successful person.

I hope that you will check out these books if you are looking for some inspiration and guidance on your own journey. They may just change your life too.

What books have had a profound effect on your life? I would love to know ♥️

And if you would like to find out some more about working with me, follow this link and get in contact here to book in a time to have a confidential chat.

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Brené Brown: The Call to Courage

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Who is Brené Brown and what is The Call to Courage?

If you have read any of my previous blogs, then you will know that I deeply admire Brené Brown. Brené is a research professor at the University of Houston, and a leading expert on vulnerability, courage, shame, and empathy. Her TED Talk on the power of vulnerability has been viewed over 50 million times, and her books have sold millions of copies.

Last night I watched Brené Brown: The Call to Courage which is on Netflix here in the UK, and it left me so uplifted. Brené explores the importance of choosing courage over comfort in a world that is often defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty. She shared her often very funny but poignant personal stories, research findings, and insights from her work with leaders, organisations, and individuals around the world.

One of the key messages of the documentary is that courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to move forward in spite of it and only by showing up with our vulnerability, can we be truly courageous. She argues that courage is essential for living a full and meaningful life. It allows us to connect with others, take risks, and achieve our goals.

The documentary went into a lot of detail with exploring the link between courage and vulnerability. Brené defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risk.” Vulnerability is not weakness, but strength. It is the willingness to show up and be seen, even when we are afraid.

The Call to Courage is a timely and important documentary that challenges us to choose courage over comfort in our own lives. It is a reminder that we are all capable of great things, if we are willing to be vulnerable and open ourselves up to connection.

Here are some of my main key takeaways from The Call to Courage:

Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to move forward in spite of it.
Vulnerability is not weakness, but strength. It is the willingness to show up and be seen, even when we are afraid.
Shame is the fear of disconnection. It is the fear of not being good enough.
Empathy is the ability to connect with the feelings of another person. It is the ability to walk in someone else’s shoes.
Connection is the antidote to shame. It is the feeling of being seen, heard, and understood.

If you are looking for a film that will challenge you, inspire you, and help you live a more courageous life, then I highly recommend The Call to Courage.

And here are some of the lessons I learned from the documentary:

Courage is not something that we have or don’t have. It is a muscle that we can build through practice.
Vulnerability is not weakness. It is the strength to be open and authentic, even when we are afraid.
Shame is a universal emotion, but it doesn’t have to define us. We can overcome shame by cultivating courage and vulnerability.
Connection is the antidote to shame. When we feel connected to others, we feel less alone and less afraid.

In her work, Brené Brown has found that vulnerability is the only way to truly connect with others and experience joy, love, and belonging.

What is vulnerability?

Vulnerability is the willingness to show up and be seen, even when there is the risk of being hurt. It is the courage to be imperfect, to be honest, and to be open to feedback.

Why is vulnerability important?

Vulnerability is important because it is the foundation of all meaningful relationships. When we are vulnerable, we allow others to see us for who we really are, and this can create a deep sense of connection. Vulnerability also allows us to experience the full range of human emotions, both positive and negative.

What are the three elements of vulnerability?

Brené identifies three key elements of vulnerability – uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.

Uncertainty: When we are vulnerable, we are opening ourselves up to the unknown. We don’t know how others will react to us, and this can be a scary feeling.
Risk: Vulnerability also involves risk. When we put ourselves out there, we are opening ourselves up to the possibility of getting hurt.
Emotional exposure: Vulnerability involves emotional exposure. When we are vulnerable, we are sharing our true feelings, and this can be a very exposing experience.

How can we be more vulnerable?

Leaning into vulnerability is not easy, but so worth it. Here are some ideas:

Start small: If you’re not used to being vulnerable, start by sharing small things with people you trust. This will help you build your confidence and get used to the feeling of being exposed.
Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings: When you’re feeling vulnerable, pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. What are you afraid of? What are you hoping for?
Practise self-compassion: When you make a mistake or get hurt, be kind to yourself. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and that vulnerability is a part of being human.

The benefits of vulnerability

The benefits of vulnerability are many. When we are vulnerable, we can:

Experience deeper connections: When we open ourselves up to others, we can create deeper connections with them.
Experience more joy: Vulnerability allows us to experience the full range of human emotions, including joy.
Be more authentic: When we are vulnerable, we are being more authentic. We are showing our true selves to the world, and this can be a very freeing experience.
Be more resilient: When we experience vulnerability, we learn to be more resilient. We learn how to cope with difficult emotions and how to bounce back from setbacks.

Vulnerability is the foundation of all meaningful relationships, and it is the key to experiencing joy, love, and belonging. And isn’t that a wonderful thing?

If you’re looking to connect with others on a deeper level, or if you want to experience more joy in your life, I encourage you to embrace vulnerability and all that it entails.

Here are some additional resources that you may find helpful after watching The Call to Courage:

Brené Brown’s website: https://brenebrown.com
Brené Brown’s TED Talk which she talked at length about during the film:

And here are Brené Brown’s books:

Daring Greatly

Rising Strong

Braving the Wilderness

Atlas of the Heart

I highly recommend watching Brené Brown: The Call to Courage if you are interested in learning more about courage, vulnerability, and shame. It is an inspiring and thought-provoking documentary that challenges us all to live a more courageous life.

And to find out more about me, here is my Meet Liz Page!

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Louise Hay's wisdom

Isn’t Spring, the season of rebirth and renewal, the perfect time to explore the transformative wisdom of Louise Hay?

And who better to guide us on this journey than the incredible Louise Hay?

To connect with the energy of Spring, let’s begin by grounding ourselves in our bodies.

Oprah named Louise the Queen of Affirmations

Over the years, affirmations have helped me completely transform my life.

Forgiveness and Letting Go

It’s about choosing peace over pain.

“The List”

“I listen to the wisdom of my body”

This is why it’s so powerful.

This is how “The List” Works:

But please remember

And please remember this too

The goal is to encourage you to consider the mind-body connection and explore potential emotional roots of physical symptoms, as suggested by Louise Hay.

Finally, let’s explore how Louise Hay’s philosophies can help us connect with our spirit, our inner peace.

“I am connected to the infinite source of love and wisdom within me.”

“I am at peace with myself and the world around me.”

And if you wish to find out more about how I work with clients, follow this link.

Decoding the Driftwood: What Do These Signs Look Like?

The key is to pay attention!

Catching the Wave – Recognising Momentum

The Power of Perspective: Seeing Driftwood in Others’ Success

Putting It Into Practice: A Two-Step Driftwood Decoder

Step 1: Pay Attention to the Driftwood

Step 2: Document the Driftwood

Let's start by defining what I mean by gently stepping into your power ​

I decided to feel all the feelings after I did a bit of hiding and numbing and freezing!!

What is your story?

We can't release what we don't know we're holding

You can change your story one step at a time

Your love for yourself is growing - trust me on that!

You can step into your power with grace by embracing all of your selves - give it your best shot

Walk through the world together

Slow down and Dance

Make your richest relationship the one you have with yourself

How can we let go and cultivate genuine gratitude for the good, the bad or the ugly?

Letting Go – Releasing the grip of what no longer serves you

Here are some ways to start:

How can you cultivate gratitude when life throws you lemons?

The Challenge of Gratitude in Difficult Times

The Science of Gratitude

How To Cultivate Gratitude in Hard Times

Here are a few practical tips:

Start Small

Keep A Gratitude Journal

Express Your Gratitude

Focus On The Small Wins

A Message of Hope

I Have A Call To Action For You

Setting Intentions for An Abundant Year

Are you ready to draw that line in the sand?

Magic always happens on the other side of awareness

“that what we give out comes back to us multiplied “

Your New Life Story For An Abundant Year

Are you saying YES to having the year you truly want? Because it’s here for you.

What is the purpose of an End Of Rear Ritual?

Here are some examples of different End Of Year Rituals:

Here are a few ideas for creating your own End Of Year Ritual

Here is your invitation to my End Of Year Ritual

To live with certainty that the Universe is really out to support you. That it’s on your side and has your back.

Our highest good can come from surrender.

If we can do this, we can be in a state of saying yes to the Universe.

It’s surrender and trust that creates a feeling of flow in every moment.

An intelligence that can see things in ways that we can’t.

I now invite you to try this exercise.

What would spirit have me do today?

Where would spirit have me go today?

What would spirit have me say and to whom?

You see, I now have tools 👩🏼‍🏭🛠🗜🔩🧰

What to do when life goes wrong… Badly!

Now, what to do when you start to feel a bit better?

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

The Power Is Within You by Louise Hay

Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff

Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield Thomas

And if you would like to find out some more about working with me, follow this link and get in contact here to book in a time to have a confidential chat.

Who is Brené Brown and what is The Call to Courage?

Let's start by defining what I mean by gently stepping into your power