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Rebirth And Renewal with Louise Hay’s Wisdom

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Isn’t Spring, the season of rebirth and renewal, the perfect time to explore the transformative wisdom of Louise Hay?

We are celebrating the awakening of nature, and the fresh start that Spring brings.

Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or new to these ideas I’ll be sharing with you, I invite you to open your heart and mind and fully participate in this shared experience with a beginner mindset!

Spring is a powerful opportunity to reflect, release what no longer serves nor supports us, and plant seeds for a brighter future.

And who better to guide us on this journey than the incredible Louise Hay?

If you are new to her work, Louise Hay was a pioneer in the field of self-help and positive thinking.

Her message was simple yet profound – our thoughts create our reality, and by changing our thoughts, we can heal our lives.

Today, we’ll explore key aspects of her philosophies, focusing on how they align with the energy of Spring and support our mind, body, and spirit.

We have just celebrated the Spring Equinox, also known as the Vernal Equinox, which marks the moment when the sun crosses the equator, resulting in roughly equal amounts of daylight and darkness.

This signifies a time of balance and transition. Traditionally, this time has been celebrated across cultures as a time of fertility, renewal, and the return of life.

It’s a powerful opportunity to plant seeds of intention, both literally and metaphorically.

Just as nature wakes up, we too can awaken dormant aspects of ourselves, shedding what no longer serves us and supports us and embracing new possibilities.

To connect with the energy of Spring, let’s begin by grounding ourselves in our bodies.

I invite you to move your body right now in any way that feels good to you before you read any further.

Feel the energy flowing through your body, releasing any stagnant energy and creating space for new growth.

In a world that often feels chaotic and bloody crazy, Louise Hay’s message of self-love and healing is more relevant than ever.

She taught us that our thoughts create our reality and that we have the power to heal ourselves from the inside out.

I’m going to take you through a few of her core philosophies, explore practical ways to apply them to our lives, and share some suggestions for reflection.

Whether you’re new to Louise Hay’s work or a long-time admirer, I hope you find this inspiring and empowering.

Please feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences by dropping me an email at hello@lizdoyle.net.

One of Louise Hay’s fundamental beliefs is that our thoughts shape our experiences. That what we think about and believe becomes our reality. This isn’t about magical thinking, but about recognising the power of our subconscious mind.

How often do you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk?

Stuff like:

These thoughts, repeated over and over, become ingrained patterns that attract similar experiences. They literally wear a groove in your brain.

Louise urged us to become aware of our thought patterns and to consciously choose positive, empowering thoughts instead.

For example, instead of:

“I’m always sick.”

Try:

“I am open to vibrant health.”

Instead of:

“I don’t deserve love.”

Try:

“I am worthy of love and acceptance.”

It does take practice, but by shifting our thoughts, we can shift our reality.

Louise believed that our thoughts are like seeds, and affirmations are the fertile soil in which they grow.

Her very simple affirmation, ‘All is well in my world,’ encapsulates her belief in the inherent goodness of life.

She taught us to affirm our worthiness, our health, and our happiness.

And isn’t Spring the perfect time to weed out those old, negative thoughts and plant new, positive ones?

Oprah named Louise the Queen of Affirmations

Positive affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves, reinforcing desired beliefs.

They’re like planting seeds in the soil of our minds.

To create effective affirmations, they need to be:

Positive:

Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Present tense:

Speak as if it’s already true.

Specific:

Be clear about what you desire.

For example:

Repeat your affirmations throughout the day, especially when you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk. Write them down, say them aloud, or visualise them in your mind.

Over the years, affirmations have helped me completely transform my life.

Forgiveness and Letting Go

Another crucial aspect of Louise Hay’s work is forgiveness.

Holding onto resentment and anger blocks our energy and prevents us from moving forward. She stressed the importance of forgiveness again and again, not just of others, but also of ourselves.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning harmful behaviour. It means releasing the emotional burden that you’re carrying.

It’s about choosing peace over pain.

Letting go of the past allows us to create space for new, positive experiences. Spring is about letting go, and forgiveness is a powerful tool for releasing the past.

My course on Insight timer called “Louise Hay’s Forgiveness Sets Me Free!” may be of interest to you. You can check it out here.

And my meditations, also on the app:

Louise Hay’s Affirmations for Forgiveness

and

Louise Hay’s It’s Time to Forgive Yourself

All of these will really help you if you want to experience the freedom that forgiveness can bring.

“The List”

Louise Hay said “Every cell in your body responds to every single thought you think.”

She believed that our bodies are a reflection of our thoughts and emotions.

When we hold onto stress and negativity, it can manifest as physical ailments.

Spring is a time to reconnect with our bodies and honour their needs.

“I listen to the wisdom of my body”

Pay attention to your body’s signals. Are you giving it the nourishment, rest, and movement it needs? Spring is about revitalising our physical energy. Nature is waking up, and so can we.

Embrace fresh, seasonal foods, spend time outdoors, and move your body in ways that feel good.

Louise Hay believed that physical ailments are often linked to emotional and mental patterns.

Her worldwide best seller “You Can Heal Your Life” is a cornerstone of the self-help movement. And Chapter 15, “The List,” is such a valuable resource.

This is why it’s so powerful.

The fundamental principle is that our thoughts and emotions directly influence our physical health. “The List” serves as a guide to help us identify these connections.

The chapter provides a comprehensive list of common physical issues and their corresponding probable mental causes. By examining this list, we are encouraged to look inward and explore the emotional and mental patterns that may be contributing to our health challenges.

Alongside each potential cause, Louise offers positive affirmations designed to counteract negative thought patterns and promote healing. These affirmations are tools for reprogramming the subconscious mind and fostering a more positive and healthier outlook.

This is how “The List” Works:

The process involves honest self-reflection and a willingness to confront potentially uncomfortable emotions. It’s about taking responsibility for our own well-being and recognising the power of the mind to influence the body.

The goal is to shift from negative, limiting beliefs to positive, empowering ones.

By consistently using the provided affirmations, we can gradually change our habitual thought patterns and create a more harmonious mind-body connection.

But please remember

While Louise Hay’s “The List” offers a framework for understanding potential emotional roots of physical ailments, it’s important to acknowledge that its correlations are not always applicable to everyone. Some individual experiences can vary significantly.

And please remember this too

“The List” is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice. It’s a tool for self-discovery and personal empowerment.

The power of affirmations lies in their ability to rewire the subconscious mind and promote positive change.

I’m now going to ask you to consider if you experience any of the following health issues. Just simply acknowledge it for yourself, and perhaps consider the potential emotional connection Louise suggests.

Think about whether you experience any of these, and if so, what emotions might be connected:

Headaches/Migraines: (Related to invalidating the self, fear)
Sinus Problems: (Related to irritation to one person, someone close)
Neck Problems: (Related to refusal to see other sides of a matter, stubbornness)
Shoulder Pain: (Related to carrying a burden, shouldering the world)
Back Problems (Upper): (Related to lack of emotional support, feeling unloved)
Back Problems (Middle): (Related to guilt, stuck in the past)
Back Problems (Lower): (Related to financial fears)
Hip Problems: (Related to fear of going forward in major decisions)
Knee Problems: (Related to fear of the future, inflexibility)
Skin Problems: (Related to anxiety, fear, old buried stuff)
Digestive Problems: (Related to fear, dread, anxiety)
Heart Problems: (Related to long-standing emotional problems, lack of joy)

The goal is to encourage you to consider the mind-body connection and explore potential emotional roots of physical symptoms, as suggested by Louise Hay.

Louise taught us the importance of self-love, and forgiveness and a lot of other things too!!!

In essence, Chapter 15 of “You Can Heal Your Life” provides a practical framework for exploring the mind-body connection and taking proactive steps toward healing.

By addressing the underlying emotional issues, we can support our body’s natural healing process.

Remember, self-love is the greatest healer.

When we love and accept ourselves unconditionally, we create an environment where healing can occur.

You can can get yourself a copy of this life changing book from Hay House Publishing, here.

Finally, let’s explore how Louise Hay’s philosophies can help us connect with our spirit, our inner peace.

“I am connected to the infinite source of love and wisdom within me.”

Louise was, of course, a metaphysical teacher, and she taught us that we are all connected to a higher power, a source of infinite love and wisdom. Spring is a wonderful time to deepen that connection.

And of course, meditation is the perfect practice to do that.

You may wish to check some of my meditations out on Insight Timer here – there are quite a few Louise Hay ones!

“I am at peace with myself and the world around me.”

Cultivating inner peace is essential for navigating life’s challenges. To deepen our connection to our spirit, let’s take some time for journaling and reflection.

Allow your inner wisdom guide you as you journal.

Spring is a time of balance, and by connecting with our spirit, we can find that balance within ourselves.

How can you integrate Louise’s teachings I’ve shared with you today into your life going forward?

What actions will you take to embody the principles of self-love, forgiveness, and positive thinking?

As we come to the end of our time together, I want to express my gratitude for your presence and your willingness to embrace the wisdom of Louise Hay. I also want to thank Louise Hay for always guiding us.

May this season of Spring be a time of profound transformation and renewal for you.

Remember, you are worthy of love, happiness, and abundance. Embrace the power of your thoughts and watch your life blossom.

I wish you a season of growth, joy, and balance.

And if you wish to find out more about how I work with clients, follow this link.

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Catching Cosmic Cues: Decoding “Driftwood” & Manifesting Your Dreams

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Manifesting your dreams: Cosmic Cues & Driftwood Signs Explained

Have you ever felt like the universe is trying to tell you something, but you’re just not quite catching the message? Like it’s whispering secrets in a language you haven’t learned yet?

Well, get ready to come along to the beach, because we’re about to dive deep into the delicious world of “driftwood” – a concept from the teachings of Abraham Hicks. It’s all about recognising the little nudges and winks the universe sends your way as you journey toward your desires.

Now, if you’re sitting there wondering, “Abraham who?” let me give you a quick intro. Esther Hicks is known for channelling a group of non-physical entities collectively called “Abraham.” Think of it like tuning into a cosmic radio station.

Abraham’s teachings revolve around the Law of Attraction – the idea that like attracts like. Basically, your thoughts and feelings are like magnets, pulling experiences into your life that match their vibrational frequency. Abraham helps us understand how to use this powerful law to intentionally create the life we dream of.

Esther describes her channelling process as tapping into “infinite intelligence.” She’s like a translator, turning the non-verbal communication from Abraham into words we can understand.

If you’re curious, check out more of Abraham Hicks’ work later on. It’s truly amazing stuff and I am a huge fan!

So, right now, we’re focusing on this fascinating concept of “driftwood.” Imagine you’re lost at sea, searching the horizon for land. Driftwood floating by would be a most welcome sign. It tells you that you’re getting closer.

In the world of manifestation, “driftwood” symbolises those very same signs and confirmations that you’re on the right track, moving closer to your desires.

Have you ever experienced those moments of uncanny synchronicity, where things just seem to fall into place? That’s driftwood!

It can show up in all sorts of ways: a song on the radio that perfectly echoes your situation, a chance encounter with someone who has exactly the advice you need, or even just a gut feeling that you’re heading in the right direction.

We’re going to explore how to recognise and interpret these subtle signs, how to boost your awareness of the vibrational guidance that’s always available to you, and how to use driftwood as a powerful tool to stay aligned with your dreams.

I can tell you from personal experience that the more I take notice of the driftwood, the closer it brings me to my desires and in the last 18 months, I can honestly say the most beautiful manifestations have been coming thick and fast.

Are you ready to unlock the universe’s treasure chest and create a life overflowing with joy, abundance, and fulfilment?

If so, let’s go to the beach!

Decoding the Driftwood: What Do These Signs Look Like?

Driftwood can manifest in a myriad of ways. Here are some common forms it might take – and be sure to share any that resonate with you by dropping me an email at hello@lizdoyle.net.

Seeing or hearing things related to your desires: Dreaming of a tropical vacation? Suddenly, you're seeing travel brochures, hearing ads for exotic destinations, and your friends are posting pictures of their amazing beach getaways. It's not just coincidence; it's driftwood!
Meeting people who can help you: You're trying to launch a new business, and out of the blue, you connect with a successful entrepreneur who offers to mentor you. Or maybe you're looking for a new job, and you bump into an old colleague who tells you about an amazing opening at their company. These chance encounters are often driftwood in disguise.
Experiencing unexpected good fortune: Finding a £20 note on the pavement, winning a small prize, or receiving a compliment that makes your day – these little moments of serendipity can be signs that you're in vibrational alignment. And isn’t serendipity such an abundant word?!!
Feeling inspired and motivated: That spark of excitement, that inner knowing that you're on the right path – that's your intuition whispering, "You're getting warmer!" When you're aligned with your desires, you'll often feel a sense of peace, joy, and anticipation.
Unexpected synchronicities: Seeing repeating numbers (like 11:11 or 22:22), hearing a song that perfectly captures your current situation, or meeting someone who unexpectedly offers valuable advice – these are all classic examples of driftwood.
Inner feelings of knowing: Trust your gut! That little voice inside that tells you, "Yes, this is it!" or "wait a little longer" is a powerful compass. We can learn to listen to it.
Opportunities and resources: A job offer that seems tailor-made for you, a financial windfall that comes at just the right time, or a connection to someone who can help you achieve your goals – these are all signs that the universe is always guiding and supporting you.

The key is to pay attention!

Driftwood can be subtle, and it’s up to you to recognise it. The more you focus on these signs, the more you’ll start to see them everywhere.

Catching the Wave – Recognising Momentum

Once you start noticing the driftwood, you’ll likely begin to feel a sense of momentum around your desires. It’s not necessarily that your dreams will instantly materialise (although sometimes they do!), but you’ll feel more connected, more supported by the universe. It’s like the universe is saying, “Yes, I hear you! You’re on the right track!”.

But remember, it can take time. If you don’t notice momentum right away, don’t get discouraged. You might just need to fine-tune your awareness and pay closer attention to the subtle signals you’re receiving.

Sometimes, we’re so caught up in our daily lives that we miss the whispers of the universe.

The Power of Perspective: Seeing Driftwood in Others’ Success

One of the trickiest aspects of recognising driftwood is when it appears in the form of other people having what you desire. Instead of feeling happy for them, you might feel a pang of envy or inadequacy.

You might think, “They have that, so I can’t.” Or “There’s not enough to go around.” These thoughts are completely normal, but they can also block your own manifestations.

The universe is always showing us examples of what’s possible. When you see someone else with what you want, it’s not a sign of lack; it’s a sign that you’re getting closer! It’s driftwood!

Let’s say you’re trying to manifest a romantic relationship, and you’re surrounded by happy couples. Instead of feeling lonely or resentful, choose to see those couples as driftwood. See them as evidence that love is all around you and that your own loving relationship is on its way.

This shift in perspective can be transformative. The more you see what you want in the world, the closer you become to attracting it into your own life. So, celebrate other people’s successes! Let their joy remind you of what’s possible for you.

Putting It Into Practice: A Two-Step Driftwood Decoder

Ready to start catching some cosmic cues? Here’s a simple two-step process to help you decode the driftwood in your life:

Step 1: Pay Attention to the Driftwood

This is the fun part! Go about your day with a sense of playful curiosity. Be open to noticing the little things that resonate with your desires.

Let’s say you’re manifesting a baby. Instead of feeling envious when you see pregnant women or babies, celebrate them!

Say to yourself, “Thank you, universe, for showing me this driftwood! My desire is on its way.” Do this every time you notice your desire showing up in any form. Shift your perspective from comparison to celebration. See it as abundance, not lack.

Step 2: Document the Driftwood

When you notice a piece of driftwood, write it down! Keep a journal specifically for this purpose. You can even share your discoveries with friends (as long as they’re on board with this whole cosmic vibe!).

Get excited about it! Join online communities, like my group on Insight Timer called Liz Doyle’s Gratitude And Support Group (here’s the link) and share your driftwood sightings with others.

The more you acknowledge and celebrate these signs, the more you’ll start to see them.

Maybe you’re manifesting a new home, and your friends move into their dream house. Instead of feeling discouraged, see it as driftwood. Your dream home is on its way!

Maybe you want to write a book, and you start seeing ads for writing courses and publishing resources. Pay attention to those signs! They’re driftwood guiding you toward your goal.

Watch out for those synchronicities, those “coincidences” that seem too perfect to be random. They’re not coincidences; they’re messages from the universe. Celebrate them, document them, and follow where they lead.

This is such a fun and empowering way to live! It’s so much more enjoyable than getting caught up in comparison or ignoring the signs altogether.

Be on high alert, pay attention, and enjoy the journey!

Make this a daily practice. Constantly celebrate the driftwood that appears in your life. It’s a huge step in your manifestation journey, and I hope you have a whole load of fun with it! I can’t wait to hear about all the amazing driftwood you discover!

Maybe you feel this piece I’ve shared here today is “driftwood”? If so, check out how you can work with me, here.

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Gently Step Into Your Power

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Step into your power

Do you ever feel you have given away your power?

Or was your power taken from you many years ago and you’ve never known how to properly claim it with grace?

Do you feel that the past can come along and trigger you and you feel you’re right back there in old patterns with the same old disempowering stories?

It happens to all of us, why do you think I’m sharing this blog?!!

Some “stuff” has been happening to me recently which inspired me to share this.

By the time you’ve finished reading this, I want you to feel empowered to put a voice to the trauma and the pain.

And to also embrace your shadow.

AND to feel that you are safe to gently step into your power whatever that means to you.

Let's start by defining what I mean by gently stepping into your power

It’s not about shouting from the rooftops or demanding attention.

It’s about a quiet inner strength, a knowing that allows you to make decisions with confidence, set boundaries, and pursue your goals with grace and determination.

But that ain’t always that easy is it?

It could the people closest to us who know how to push our buttons, just trigger us in some way.

Or it might be a long distant memory that comes roaring back into our lives, and it feels like we are being de-railed.

However, we can begin again and know that we are actually far further along our path than our minds can lead us to believe.

Let’s connect with the heart and open the heart to move through any feelings of hopelessness, isolation or disconnection.

Because you are not alone. I am here, with you and for you.

So, if something I share in this blog resonates, drop me an email as this is all part of the healing and digging down a little deeper than maybe you have ever done before.

If you’re reading this, right now, I believe your higher self, led you here.

Recently, I found myself right in the middle of a trauma response that left me falling into a black, bottomless well and this still isn’t easy to admit.

None of my tools were getting me out – my inner critic was working round the clock.

I was judging myself for being in that place, despite all that I know and all of the work I’ve already done and god dammit, I share in my coaching.

I felt like I was in a purgatory of not yet becoming my true self and I felt like a fraud.

I found myself standing still.

Not being able to do anything because I was so overwhelmed by the feelings of rejection, abandonment, and isolation.

Of course, I understand this all goes back to my childhood, but these feelings can still, albeit very rarely, rear their ugly heads and send me into a downward spiral of regret, shame, and guilt.

I decided to feel all the feelings after I did a bit of hiding and numbing and freezing!!

The biggest thing that came from it was I wanted to turn up here and share some of the pain because I know these trauma responses are not only experienced by me.

I know I’m not alone feeling lost in my trauma response even if I do feel alone and confused. Or am I?

I am gently reminding myself that it’s okay to trip over the rocks on my path from time to time.

I’m also reminding myself that it’s safe for me to stop rejecting the inner parts of myself that I dislike or even despise.

I want to accept my shadow self.

It’s not easy but that’s what loving myself completely is all about, isn’t it?

So, by meditating, reflecting, and listening to courses on Inside Timer, I realised this is all part of my healing.

I’m being called to get to that deep, deep old story.

And my soul is asking me to take a moment to process – to sit with it.

I am acknowledging these sensations and trying not to judge them and that is AS important as all the active work.

Recovering parts of myself is helping to bring me more clarity but it took me a while to know what to do next.

That’s why I’m here – I wanted to turn up with all of this rawness and vulnerability.

What is your story?

What is your trauma response?

Do you live your life thinking that you have to be strong and just get on with life?

It doesn’t really work, does it?

Through the years we can be repeating the patterns from our origin story, our childhood.

Does any of what I’m about to share resonate with you? If so, declare it because you’re owning that shadow.

Never feeling enough
Having no compassion for yourself
Beating yourself up with self-talk that doesnothing but disempower you (and that might be despite all the success you have achieved in your life)
Being engulfed by fear every single day
Feeling anxious
People pleasing
Never really feeling true happiness

Is it time to meet your shadows?

To feel the sadness, the fear, the anger, the shame, the regret, the guilt, the resentment…

Time to accept and feel all of those emotions?

Have true self-compassion?

Let go of judging yourself.

Actually, feeling pride for yourself and seeing who you really are?

It can be a painful process and yet a wonderful one.

Feeling truly connected and peaceful.

Being grateful and looking forward to being present in your life whether there is tragedy or happiness

Because you are never alone, even when you feel you are.

There is help if you are willing to trust and know that you are always worthy

What you have been burying so deeply and so successfully for so long is waiting to erupt.

You are uncovering those old stories that are deeply buried in your consciousness, in your body, that you might not even be really aware of.

As they are revealed, you will understand the roadblocks that are in your way.

We can't release what we don't know we're holding

Whether you have gone through a traumatic experience many, many years ago or quite recently you can come out the other side stronger understanding how you can stand in your own power.
You have the wisdom and the understanding within you.

It’s just about trusting yourself and listening to your heart, to your soul and to your higher self.

I definitely had the dark night of the soul recently and I haven’t been there in such a long time, and it was bad.

I felt I was coming undone but by sharing this with you, I am trusting that this is all part of my journey.

First of all though, we need to be patient and sit and meditate in our safe space.

That might be under your blankets and soft pillows and that’s okay. Wait and ask and meditate.

I came across this quote the other day and it really spoke to me:

“Don’t just do something, stand there.”

Originally said by the White Rabbit in Alice in Wonderland.

There is no rush to work it all out at once – trust the process.

Then when you’re ready, ask yourself :

Is the next cycle of my life ready to begin?

Are you ready to step gently into your power?

Learn to trust again and I know that’s not easy to do if you’ve left toxic situations or relationships. Healing those old wounds takes time, sometimes a long time, I know!

Listening to the shadow gives us great insights to our stories and our patterns.

For instance:

“I am worthless if I am abandoned”

means you hold onto the fear of abandonment to avoid your lack of self esteem.

Fill in the need for worthiness by discovering the root cause embedded in your childhood.

Allow this blog to feel like a warm, comfy blanket wrapping you up so that you feel safe and cared for and cherished.

What is choosing you right now?

Don’t force yourself to make a choice about what you want the rest of your life to be.

Just get curious about the little things that are entering your field of interest right now, even if they’re not screaming out loud:

“This is the thing – choose THIS thing now”

Sometimes this in between moment is about grieving for what you’ve lost. It’s about being curious without feeling the drag of indecision or shoulding all over yourself.

Be proud of yourself. Be proud of your strength even if you feel lost and lonely, be proud of yourself.

You can change your story one step at a time

So many of us have had experiences and situations that we had to navigate during our childhood with parents who may not have been able to express or understand emotions.

After years of maybe even hating yourself, you can discover that you are your rock and you always have been throughout your entire journey.

Keep going in healing and learning to love yourself first.

Going through deep, deep pain, a pain so unbelievably deep that you didn’t know you would survive, well, it can feel that we have touched the bottom.

But you did survive.

The pain might still be there but trust that it can transform into something so beautiful.

Learning to respect yourself and to just love yourself so that you can let go all these old patterns.

But to also love yourself and be compassionate with yourself when they might reappear from time to time because they sure can!!!

Your love for yourself is growing - trust me on that!

Filling your whole self with that love and expanding and connecting to everything, to moments of pure beauty, to moments of pure grace will become more and more frequent and will last longer and longer.

BUT it is okay if the deep pain rises back up to the surface now and again.

That shadow, does it ever completely go?

I don’t think it does, but life does become easier and more joyful the more we can love ourselves.

Have you shut yourself down throughout your life to keep the peace and you might still do it?

From your childhood and now as an adult?

If so, this is the time to break through this deep-seated pattern.

This is your time to honour your own intrinsic wisdom and guidance.

It is time to speak your truth when you feel it within you.

Asking for what you need and not shrinking back even if your request is met with resistance.

When you do this, you honour yourself.

It’s time to rescue that little girl who had no voice or ability to be herself.

It can take such a long time to allow the deepest truth to surface.

My old default position was to fall into depression and feel hopeless. That feeling came back to me recently and it was hard!

Early conditioning means we can learn very early on and have a very deep subconscious belief that we cannot be our whole self. That by showing up as your true self is just too much for others.

If you felt that way as a child, you might have learned to hide your true self away by all sorts of survival strategies.

Maybe you felt you could only show up as perfect or how others need you.

Somehow being your true self was and is overwhelming for others. Or you won’t get what you really want in life because you feel unworthy.

Do you have abandonment issues?

Dealing with abandonment issues takes time.

Lots of situations can trigger feelings of abandonment or rejection.

For example, when a partner just wants some time alone or maybe a short break with friends.

Fights can start and you didn’t mean to fight about it.

It’s hard to break old fear patterns but it is possible.

Do you feel that you have to live your life so carefully, so you never upset anyone?

And then do you feel you’ve lost your authenticity, your power, your true self?

If you have difficulty in grieving or maybe crying as part of your grief, can you give yourself permission to really let go?

Feel it and sit with it and tell yourself that you love yourself for feeling all of these raw emotions.

You can step into your power with grace by embracing all of your selves - give it your best shot

The light and darkness within you.

Maybe something small has shifted within you. Maybe you’re able to close your eyes and just be.

Allow the tears to roll down your face and find that connection within you if you need to.

Opening up your heart to these deep, trapped emotions and grief that you have been carrying sets you free.

Have your own back and follow through with loving yourself.

This is how you can step out of victimhood and into your own authentic self and your own power.

When you notice yourself shying away from loving yourself, allow yourself to spend time with both your inner little self and your higher self.

Walk through the world together

Why not have morning and evening check-ins?

In the morning with your higher self and tucking your inner child into bed at night. How does that sound?

I often find that what’s holding me back is me.

This part of me that thinks I’m not worthy and believes others over myself. This part of me that stops myself from taking action out of fear.

But nowadays, I repeat my affirmations and then take action with the fear and just let it be okay.

Are you ready to let go of the person that you felt your family has wanted you to be?

Are you ready to let go of their expectations of you?

Ready to let go of their perceptions and opinions of you?

Are these opinions even true of you?

Have you noticed that your story that you’ve been telling yourself is:

“My voice doesn’t matter, and no one cares”

The truth is your voice does matter and you care. Your inner being cares for you.

You can work on rewriting these stories and any others that come up throughout your life’s journey.

Allow your deep spiritual wisdom to resonate with your own soul.

So many of my shadows have been uprooted with some people in my life recently and that has been overwhelming to say the least.

Looking at all those buried parts with that victim mentality being a big one is bloody hard!

Figuring out how to acknowledge all these shadows, some of which I didn’t even know were there.

At times, it felt it was all too late.

But I’m trying to just take the wisdom I’ve gained and integrate it to my personal growth, at the very least, and carry that forward.

Accepting accountability and stepping out of the cycles I’ve perpetuated.

When we have or had parents or care givers that weren’t there for us emotionally, it’s difficult to charter a course in life, isn’t it?

We see these patterns repeat themselves in our lives then it takes time to understand what’s going on.

It could be that you married the same kind of person and just kept excusing their behaviour for:

“What could I have done differently, so he wouldn’t behave that way?”

And it can also be so strange to have made so many changes on this self-love journey and others seem to have remained exactly where they were.

Here’s a little reminder – who you are is important and how you feel is important. Just hold on to that.

After you’ve finished reading this today, I’m going to suggest dancing with your shadow.

Now this could be to a favourite track that means a lot to you or if you’ve come across 5 Rhythm Dancing.

This is all about transformation and healing that might be for you and although I don’t know much about it, I will be investigating it further.

Slow down and Dance

Slowing down might be difficult for you but it’s necessary!

We can learn to slow down and listen to our inner wisdom and listen for guidance so that we can act and not just react.

We are responsible for our own self-care because if we don’t care for ourselves this is just another trauma response which puts us back into victimhood.

Say out loud if you can:

It’s time to learn

It’s time to transform

It’s time to heal

It’s time slow down

It’s time to laugh, shout and cry

It’s time to dance with my shadow… instead of running away from my shadow again and again… or recreating or attracting drama

Time to feel my emotions

Time to tell my story

To tell my truth

It’s time to rest

Nothing to do, just breathe.

Discover your own path that resonates with your innermost self and pursue it wholeheartedly.

Recover the missing pieces of yourself.

Trust the journey – the destination reveals itself in time, when you are ready to see it.

Make your richest relationship the one you have with yourself

Life can feel overwhelming at times and it’s easy to forget that relationship with ourselves.

We juggle responsibilities, navigate relationships, and wrestle with self-doubt.

It’s easy to feel powerless, like we’re being swept along by currents beyond our control.

But we all have the power within us to shift gears, take the wheel, and chart our own course with grace and gentleness.

This can be as simple as starting each day with a gentle check in with yourself.

“How am I feeling today? What do I need?”

It can look like setting boundaries, practising self-care and being kind to yourself in your thoughts and in your actions.

It’s the small things practised daily that create a full picture of self-love.

I shared this amazing piece from Brené Brown on my:

Open Your Heart 10 Day Challenge

on Insight Timer and I thought it was perfect to share here.

MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED

“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers

than those of us who are willing to fall

Because we have learned how to rise

With skinned knees and bruised hearts.

We choose owning our stories of struggle,

Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us.

When we run from struggle, we are never free.

So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.

We will not be characters in our stories.

Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives.

We write our own daring endings.

We craft love from heartbreak,

Compassion from shame,

Grace from disappointment,

Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power.

Story is our way home.

Truth is our song.

We are the brave and broken-hearted.

We are rising strong.”

– Brené Brown

Such a beautiful piece…

Gently stepping into your power and owning your voice doesn’t happen on that one occasion, it’s a continuous journey.

There will be bumps along the road, sometimes bloody big ones!

But by staying committed to your growth and your authentic self, you can truly shine your light on the world.

Remember, you are worthy, you are capable, and you have the power to create a life you deserve.

Much love.

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