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Happy Mother’s Day?

I hope it’s a happy mothers day for all mother figures.

Here in the UK on Sunday, it was Mother’s Day and my daughters have always made a lovely fuss of me since they were very small. Some years they would all make me gorgeous home made gifts and cards. And I have treasured them all. As they are now all young women, they still give me flowers and sometimes make me something (this year my youngest made me a beautifully printed card) but… those extra special cuddles and kisses are not so numerous which is how life is and that’s OK.

But it hasn’t always been an easy day because my relationship with my mum was not an easy one and she wasn’t a very easy woman to love. She was distant and cold as well as being pretty angry most of the time. I now really understand and “get” her story of what made her that way. I have forgiven her many times although she passed quite a while ago and know that she couldn’t really give the love she was never given in the first place. Because of Louise Hay, I totally understand that she was doing the best she could at the time with the knowledge, awareness and understanding that she had then.

Here’s a very short video on why forgiveness sets you free 🦋

Video – Forgiveness

Mother’s Day can be a difficult day

I know I’m not the only one who has found Mother’s Day a difficult day. Maybe because you don’t get on or she’s no longer around or you can’t get to see her. And of course, it can so very hard for those who are not able to have children when that’s all they want in the world. These sorts of days can be really difficult reminders especially when we see all the happy posts on social media.

All kinds of mums

Nowadays, I understand that Mother’s Day isn’t just for birth mothers but all kinds. It’s also for them.

Mum who has a lost a child

Adoptive mum

IVF mum

Surrogate mum

Dad who has to be a mum too

Mum of her furbabies

Mum of a special needs child

Mum of a child with health challenges

Mum who feels like she’s failing

You are not forgotten and you are never alone and if I’ve missed any other kind of mum, it wasn’t intentional.

What goes on in that womb!

I have been reading up a bit more about what happens as the baby grows inside the mother and although I knew a fair bit (I am a mum of 3 girls after all), I have either forgotten some of this or never knew it in the first place. It just blew me away.

When pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mother’s bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal-maternal microchimerism”.⁠

For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mother’s tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.

Even if a pregnancy doesn’t go to full term, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream which is a lovely thing to know as I miscarried two babies.

Research has shown that if a mother’s heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialise in mending the heart.

The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.

How cool is that?

This is often why certain illnesses vanish while a woman is pregnant (now so much makes sense).

It’s incredible how the mother’s body protects the baby at all costs, and the baby protects and rebuilds the mother back – so that the baby can develop safely and survive.

Studies have also shown cells from a fetus in a mothers brain eighteen years after she gave birth. How amazing is that?

If you’re a mum, you know how you can intuitively feel your child even when they are not there…

Well, now there is scientific proof that mums carry them for years and years even after they have given birth to them.

I think this is all so beautiful.

Why is Mother’s Day different in the UK?

Where does Mothering Sunday in the UK originate from? I’ve been looking this up too

It always falls on the 4th Sunday in Lent – exactly 3 weeks before Easter, in the UK and some others parts of the world.

Originating in the Middle ages when children who were employed in domestic service were allowed to go home to their “mother church” – so the connection with mothers was not as we celebrate it today.

Naturally the journey home became an opportunity for families to get together and the children would pick flowers for their mothers on their way home.

It was also a time when the fasting rules of Lent were slightly relaxed, and also it became known as Simnel Sunday – a day when Simnel cakes are traditionally baked.

Mothering Sunday is celebrated on different days around the world – in the U.S and most of Europe this year it will be on 8th May and in France they celebrate on the last Sunday in May.

If you are lucky enough to have your mother still with you and you have a loving and nourishing relationship- treasure and value that relationship. But we know there can be so many motherly figures who can fulfil that role. The most important thing is to know you are always loved.

If you would like to find out more about how I can help you move on from difficult relationships and know that you are always enough just as you are, follow this link

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Do you feel you don’t have enough?

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Photo of a field of sunflowers and text Do you have enough? and Liz Doyle the Positive Change Coach. This accompanies the blog - Do you feel you don’t have enough?

Not enough abundance and maybe not enough money?

Do you feel you don’t have enough? Money? Love? Time? ✨

For the rest of March because let’s face it, it is the spring cleaning month (not that I have ever spring cleaned in my life), I will be sharing ideas with my community how clearing out at home creates space. It creates space for some really great ways to allow some good stuff to come into your life.

That could be more loving relationships, more joy, better feelings of wellness and vitality and of course money!

I’ve been doing a bit of de-cluttering physically recently which always helps with clearing the clutter in my mind and also just shifting some energy.

I decided to collect all the loose change in the house and I mean everywhere and it really made me realise how I think of money. If I want more money, I need to look after what I have. I know I have come a long way thanks to Louise Hay but…..

It’s been a while since I’ve done any proper collecting of money around the house and it paid me such a great lesson✨✨

I’m very proud of my £30 for myself I’ve gleaned from everywhere else in the house too, plus around £14 in larger coins which means I have a lovely bulging purse for when I pass someone collecting in the street. And I have £30+ for the charities I had been collecting for as well.

I have also sorted old premium bonds I have had for years but at an old address! 💁🏻‍♀️

From all of this activity, I have already seen some amazing things happen in just a few days – some beautiful new clients seem to have popped out of nowhere for instance.

If you would like to welcome in more abundance, and let’s face it money, into your life, why not give this a go? What have you got to lose?

How we treat money like this is very symbolic to how we’re treating money in all areas of our lives.

And how you’re allowing yourself to receive.

You have to use what you already HAVE before the Universe sends you more. You have to create a vacuum.

Why would the Universe give you more, when you’re clogging up your flow – OR mistreating what you already have?

AND gratitude brings more abundance so feel the appreciation for all you have and you just keep on welcoming in more.

So, when you have a little time to yourself, why not look for ALL the loose coins and money lying around.

Bags 👜, pockets of your coats, your drawers and boxes, down the back of the sofa! 🛋

Count it all and see how much abundance you already have. 😊

You can put it in a really beautiful bowl, a pretty money box or cash it in.

I realised that all of these coins counted towards unappreciated and unacknowledged abundance – basically a metaphor for how money is treated in your life.

Giving your money a home means it can multiply like bunnies!!! 🐰🐰🐰

Let me know how you get on – having fun with these exercises is what it’s all about too 😉🤪

I’ll be looking at how de-cluttering can bring so much more joy and just peace into our lives over the coming days so if you’d like to get some more ideas to welcome in more abundance into your life, why not join my Facebook community here?

De-cluttering is very much part of letting go. Letting go of what’s no longer serving you or what’s not good for you. That’s why it forms an important part of my coaching and of course, my online course – 21 Days To Letting Go Of The Weight as the title implies. When it comes to binge and emotional eating, it’s never about the weight or the food but about what we need to let go of.

For more information on the 21 Days To Letting Go Of The Weight – follow this link.

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Need a good cuddle?

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Photos of people cuddling each other, their animals and themselves with text - Need a Cuddle? and Liz Doyle the Positive Change Coach. Blog about the Importance of Being Held

The Importance of Being Held

The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But I’m sure you’ve read or heard that researchers have discovered that when a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a heartfelt embrace produces the hormone “oxytocin”, aka the love hormone. This has lots of benefits with our physical and mental health. It helps us to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety.

So every time you hold a person in your arms, cuddle your child, give your dog or cat (if he/she will let you!) a hug, dance with your partner, or just put your arm around the shoulders of a friend, you are doing both of you a whole lot of good.

Here are some more reasons, according to scientific research, why we should hug more:

1. Hugging stimulates oxytocin (as I already mentioned)

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress. It is the hormone responsible for us being here today! Oxytocin is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the terrible pain and trauma they endured bringing us into the world and making them want to still love and spend time with us (that does explain a lot after I gave birth). When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease so, of course, it is always good to lower cortisol.

2. Hugging Could Help Avoid Disease

Affection in the form of a cuddle has a direct affect on reducing stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

3. A Cuddle Promotes Patience

Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation for another person. We’re constantly rushing around or so it seems sometimes. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

4. Activates the Thymus Gland

Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy. I also practise a Thymus Gland activation process, I learned from the amazing energy healer, Deborah King – check out this link

The Importance of Being Held and how to activate the Thymus Gland

5. Promotes Self-Esteem and Self-Love

Having a cuddle boosts self-esteem, especially in children according to research. The tactile sense is all-important in babies, of course. A baby recognises its parents by touch at first. From the moment we’re born, our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our parents or other care givers while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Cuddles, therefore, connect us to our ability to love ourselves. Pretty profound eh?!

6. Non Verbal Communication

About 70% of communication is nonverbal. How we interpret someone’s body language can be based on just one gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. What a wonderful way to share the love and care you have for them by your embrace.

7. Cuddles Help Parasympathetic Balance

Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin can sense the touch from a cuddle which connects with the brain through the vagus nerve. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.

8. Stimulates Serotonin

Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and this causes pleasure, takes away pain and sadness. It can decrease the chances of getting heart problems as well as help to maintain a healthy weight. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces stress levels.

9. Hugs Stimulate Dopamine Flow

Everything we do involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow, the pleasure and reward hormone. Apparently, low dopamine levels play a role in the disease Parkinson’s as well as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate the brain to release dopamine. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and alcohol target. So we can get the same release by cuddling our dog or even ourselves if nobody else is around.

So get hugging and cuddling from your heart with someone you care for, an animal you love and above all, yourself. Yes, stretch those arms around yourself and give yourself a big, heartfelt hug.

And if that wasn’t enough, to receive my latest love letter with the health benefits of smiling, get in contact here.

I would also love to hear from you with your thoughts on this blog. It’s always good to hear if you find it interesting and possibly inspiring.

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What is Valentine’s Day all about anyway?

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You’d need to be living under a rock not to have noticed it was Valentine’s Day yesterday, don’t you think? What is Valentine’s Day all about anyway?

There is so much hype about this one day of the year.

Valentine’s Day can be such a tricky day for those not in a relationship. It can also be pretty tricky for those in a relationship that isn’t thriving and loving and empowering.

You’ll probably guess where I’m going to go with this post – start with yourself.

No matter if you’re in a relationship or not – Be your own Valentine and it really shouldn’t be for just one day.

What did you give yourself yesterday? 💌

What are you going to give yourself tomorrow? 🥰

When was the last time you had a date? 🍽

With yourself? 😊

Bought yourself some flowers… 💐 some REALLY good chocolate? 🍫

On St Val’s day, I romanced myself. I gave myself some love. In lots of small ways but they make such a difference.

One of them is to affirm:

“I am loved. I am loving. I am lovable.”
Louise Hay

Say it with me 😊♥️♥️

If you’re looking for more connection, more meaning, and more happiness in your life, then you need to LOVE yourself first 😊♥️

Look at yourself in the mirror and say:

“I love you, I really, really love you”.

Here are some other things you can try to give love to yourself:

😍 Massage some love into your face, maybe with some oils – a little bit of almond oil with rose (the essential oil of self-love) or lavender is fantastic but any oil or even a moisturiser will do just as well.

🥰 Close your eyes. Breathe in love into your heart centre. Breathe out love to everyone in the world (this is magical).

👣 Give yourself a mini pedicure – fill a bowl with warm water and some Epsom salts for all that yummy magnesium and soak up all that love there is for you.

🗣 Whisper sweet nothings to yourself. Tell yourself how proud you are of how far you have come.

✍️ Connect with your inner child or inner teenager by writing a love letter to yourself as you were at a time when you needed some extra love and support. Look at my earlier blog about connecting with your inner child here.

♥️ Forgive yourself. Remind yourself that you were doing the best you could at the time, with the knowledge, awareness and understanding you had at that time. Say it out loud – “I forgive you”.

😘 Are there are any parts of yourself that you are ashamed of? It is so so important to give love to those parts that you hold shame over. Let it all go.

For even more inspiration to love yourself more, go to my A to Z of Self-Love playlist and here is the link.

How are you going to love yourself even more for the rest of the month? Let me know 🥰

I’m going to close with another and super simple affirmation from the truly wonderful Louise Hay – “Life Loves Me!”

#valentinesday #iamlove #louisehay #affirmations #loveyourself

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Could you be a perfectionist?

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Answer these questions to find out…

Do you worry about what people think of you?
Do you beat yourself up over the smallest thing that goes wrong?
Do you have to be the best in everything you do, even if it’s something you don’t care that much about?
Are you super critical and highly conscious of your own mistakes?
When things don’t turn out as perfectly as you had wanted, do you think about the outcome obsessively and how you could have done it differently?
Are you critical and highly conscious of other people’s mistakes?
Do you spend a lot of your time getting something just right even at the detriment of your health and well-being?
Do you set really high standards, seeing only black and white (no grey)?
Are you really sensitive and defensive towards criticism?
Do you get so obsessed about reaching your goal that you seldom, if ever, enjoy the journey?

If you said “yes” to ANY of the above questions, you’re a bit of a perfectionist. The more “yeses”, the more you succumb to perfectionism

Perfectionism is another pattern coming from a place of not feeling good enough. To heal the part of you that feels you’re not enough is to be aware of when you’re falling into the perfectionist story and then to consciously choose to take baby steps to get ahead. Good enough is ALWAYS great.

Being self-compassionate for our vulnerabilities is the best way to overcome perfectionism. When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves, we can embrace our imperfections – yes really! Because, after all, we are imperfectly perfect human beings.

I love what Brené Brown has to say on the subject:

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the thought: “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” We want to be perceived as perfect but that can never happen because there’s no way to control other people’s perception of you, regardless of how much time and energy you spend trying.”

Brené also says,

“It’s in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts and create our most meaningful connections. It’s only when you are able to say, ‘I’m struggling with this,’ or ‘I think I screwed up or made a mistake,’ or ‘I need your help,’ that you can deeply connect with others soul to soul.”

This a great short clip to check out

Getting over perfectionistm

Which areas of your life might you be a perfectionist? How does it feel to treat yourself more gently and with compassion? Realising that you are good enough and you’re always doing the best you can is such an important step in loving yourself more.

If you’d like to find out more about how you can work with me, have a look at this page.

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How do you start your day?

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Image of Liz Doyle and her dog, Alf, with text; Get My 7 Simple Morning Rituals for a Beautiful Day

Do you have some morning rituals to set yourself up for a great day?

Do they ensure you’re feeling calm and yet excited for your day or do you feel tired and stressed and possibly, worried about the day ahead? If you’d like to introduce a few little things that could make a huge difference to your day when practised over a period of time, why not get my 7 Simple Morning Rituals For a Beautiful Day using this link.

If we think we can’t function before that first cup of coffee then we are giving our power away. Set your intentions for a beautiful morning and day ahead with these very easy steps and of course, you don’t have to do them all. Try some on and see how they fit and just have fun with them.

I mention having a gratitude practice as one of my 7 morning rituals – find out here why gratitude is such a game changer – here’s the link

Each day can be like starting a whole new year. You have another chance to start over. And yes I know, 2021 was another tough year and for some really, really tough.

With this in mind, it would be easy to look at the new year and even each day with a sense of – here we go again! But I have discovered over the years that by focusing on the positive, we can attract more of what we want into our lives.

That is why I changed Maya Angelou‘s beautiful quote – “This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before” to apply for this new year. We’ve not seen this one, let’s look at 2022 with the excitement of a small child and see what unfolds for us. In fact I have added this quote to my morning rituals as it’s sets the tone for the day perfectly, don’t you think?

So are you up to starting your morning so your day feels magical within the first hour of waking? Yes, honest!

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Thank You – Just Thank You

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Thank you from Liz Doyle - “May you have so much to be grateful for this year and always.” Louise Hay

So, the new year – 2022 is nearly here, and I just wanted to say thank you.

Thank you for being part of my journey of sharing Louise Hay’s work this year – however that has been. ✨

I wanted to let you know how grateful I am for all of your amazing notes of gratitude telling me how much this work has meant to you.

I am grateful to all of you who have trusted me to work with you so I can do what I love doing most. ✨

I am grateful to those of you who I have worked with and referred me to others so that they can also start to make those positive changes in their lives.

I am grateful to those of you who have read these blogs, joined my taster sessions, participated in my FB community, engaged with me on LinkedIn, read my love letters, and also watched my YouTube videos (here’s my video of Number 1 of Louise Hay’s 12 Ways to Love Yourself) ✨

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I am grateful to all of the publications, podcasters and other hosts who had me on as a guest so I can share with others what I do.

I am grateful to Jo and Maggie for all they do to help me in the background to enable me to impact women’s lives. ✨

I am grateful to all my teachers who have guided me this year and of course, especially, Louise Hay who continues to guide and teach me.

To all of my supporters, friends and family – I am grateful that you have continued to help in all the ways you have so I have had the experience of helping women change their lives. ✨

And lastly, to my daughters. I am grateful that Julia, Lydia and Grace have honoured me to be their mother. They continue to make a difference in my life every day and the joy I get from seeing them make their way in the world is beyond any words I can share here.

To close this is a perfect Louise Hay affirmation for you ♥️

“May you have so much to be grateful for this year and always.”

With so much love for a healthy, peaceful and joyful New Year

Liz ✨

P.S. I am taking bookings for my very special "Intentions Setting for 2022" session during January - get in contact here for more info

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What to do when you feel anxious or suffer from social anxiety

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I still suffer from social anxiety at times. There’s my hot confession for the day! It’s nowhere near as bad as it used to be but, I think, because I haven’t seen so many people over these crazy months, it has led me to be more anxious when I do. So, these weeks leading up to Christmas are feeling a bit daunting. Do you feel anxious or suffer from social anxiety?

Below are some things I do if I find myself in the middle of a very anxious moment (this is also really helpful if you’re with someone who might be feeling frightened, agitated or worried about having a panic attack too). The important thing is to feel safe and calm.

My top 6 tips help:

1. Breathe slowly and deeply

This may seem obvious, but how many of us start to breathe high up in the chest in a shallow way when we start to become anxious? So, count slowly to 5 as you breathe in filling the lungs completely, and then 5 as you breathe out. If this is too much, try starting with 3 counts. If it works, gradually breathe out for 1 or 2 counts longer than you breathe in. This will automatically help the body to relax a little.

2. Try to think of a safe and relaxing place

This could be a favourite place in nature, somewhere you’ve been on holiday, or a beautiful garden (mine is a beach on a Greek island and Louise Hay’s was a vase of yellow roses). It helps me every time, I’m not even quite sure why!

3. Try using all 5 senses

Connecting with what you can see, touch, hear, smell and taste can bring you closer to the present moment and reduce the intensity of your anxiety. By saying out loud what you can see, hear etc really helps. By touching my sleeve or my skin when I’m really anxious, it brings me back to the now.

4. Sit with someone if you can or cuddle a cushion

Feeling someone nearby, or holding their hand or having a cuddle if it’s possible, can be calming when there is any anxiety. If you’re alone and have a dog or cat, try to stroke or even cuddle them for some physical reassurance. If that isn’t available to you either, I find cuddling a cushion is so soothing.

5. Reassure yourself that the anxiety will pass and that you will be okay

I also repeat different positive affirmations and they have helped me incredibly, especially recently with some bouts of vertigo I have been going through which have been extremely distressing – “I am safe”, “Things are always working out for me” and “I am feeling better and better” are my favourite go to affirmations.

6. Do something that helps you feel calmer

This could be going for a run, getting outside and having a walk in nature, listening and maybe dancing to music, writing in a journal, watching a favourite film or something funny on Youtube. Laughter is definitely the best medicine for so many situations and helps me get out of an anxious moment.

Let me know how you get on with the above suggestions of what to do when you feel anxious. Have you some other ideas that have helped you or someone else? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Drop me an email at; hello@lizdoyle.net.

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Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

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Text - Gratitude bring more to be grateful about. Louise Hay. Liz Doyle - Positive Change Coach

We often hear that practising gratitude is good for us and promotes wellbeing in so many ways, don’t we?

I must admit, at times in my life in the past, I really didn’t feel very grateful for much or I just couldn’t seem to muster up the enthusiasm for it. I’ve since learned this is just when it’s even more important to introduce the practice.

In positive psychology research and I quote, “gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”

My 10 Top Tips for Introducing a Gratitude Practice

There is no right or wrong way of doing these. Try out as many of them as you want 😊:

Just after you wake up – lie in your bed and think of 3 things that you might be really grateful for. You could do this again at the end of your day.
When you say thank you to someone in the supermarket or in a cafe – why not tell them that you’re grateful for their help? It is so simple, yet very powerful and you will really make their day.
Write a little thank you and gratitude note to someone and send it off to them – you don’t have to say a lot in the note but it will make you feel so good and it will be greatly appreciated.
While you’re preparing your meals – think about how wonderful it is to have all this fresh food. You can be grateful to the lorry drivers, the supermarket staff, the farmers, the packers – the list goes on.
When you’re having a walk out in a park or in the countryside – count 10 things that you’re grateful for; the sun (even if it’s hidden behind clouds), the trees, the changing seasons, the abundance of nature, squirrels scampering in the distance, the birds singing, the sky at night…
Try this as you walk up some stairs, at home, at work or maybe at the shops – On one step, say out loud or silently, “Thank and on the next step “You”. The more steps you have to climb, the more you will feel the gratitude for all you have.
Thank your money – when you’re out shopping or on the internet, as you pay, silently thank the flow of money and all the abundance around you. When money is coming into your account or you get paid for work, thank the money flowing to you. This is especially helpful for when you have feelings of lack, to shift the energy.
Write a thank you letter to your body – take 5 minutes and start with dating your letter and start with “Dear” and just allow the words to flow. Thank your physical body for everything you can enjoy in life, even the parts of your body that may not be feeling that healthy. Without your amazing body, you wouldn’t have the experience of life.
Think of 10 things that you can deeply appreciate about yourself – your resilience, your courage, your sense of humour, your creativity. Have fun with it and feel the gratitude for the beauty of who you are.
Listen to a gratitude meditation on a regular basis – follow this link or listen below for my gratitude meditation recording.

5 Top Benefits of Feeling Grateful

And if you need more encouragement for why practising gratitude is so good for you, here are 5 benefits, according to research:

Gratitude improves relationships.
Gratitude improves physical and mental health.
Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression.
Gratitude helps people sleep better.
Gratitude improves self-esteem.

If you would like to find out more about how you can start your journey of loving yourself every day and to have a life you feel more and more grateful for, have a look at how I can help here and drop me an email at hello@lizdoyle.net

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10 Top Ways to Move On From a Relationship

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Whether it’s been a long one or short one, moving on from a romantic relationship is bloody hard isn’t it?

Or it can be.

Even if you’ve been the one that ended it, it can leave you with an empty feeling. Or maybe just wondering will you actually ever find that deep connection and loving, fulfilling relationship.

My Top 10 ways to deal with end of a relationship

Here are 10 suggestions to help you to move on from the heartbreak of the end of that relationship:

Number 1

Create space for yourself – this is so important. Have compassion and empathy for yourself. Holding this space for yourself to allow the disappointment, the feeling of loss or maybe even anger is really really important to help you with healing process.

Number 2

Journal your thoughts about it especially if there is stuff that has been left unsaid. Write it or type it up if you prefe. Say everything you want to say. Imagine that you’re telling that person what you think, what you feel – how they might have hurt you or betrayed you or just let you down. This is such a powerful way to deal with the rumination and all that negative self-babble that might be going on.

Number 3

Sever all contact for the immediate future. You’re not helping yourself or them by continuing any communication at the moment. It doesn’t mean that will be the case forever but for now, you need to protect yourself and step away as much as you can. Of course, this isn’t so easy to do if you’re sharing a home and/or have a family but do your best.

Number 4

Unfollow them on all social media platforms. Don’t torture yourself by scrolling through their posts and just continuing to hurt yourself by looking at what they do. This is so important, especially if they seem to be getting on with their life really quickly and maybe even starting another relationship.

Number 5

Get support – get your friends, loved ones, family, whoever you can count on to support you during this time. After you have had the session where you go through it all, remind yourself you don’t need to go keep going over everything. Try to get out and have some fun with them, country walks, park runs, afternoon teas – do special things that might be different to what you’ve done before.

Number 6

Are you seeing a pattern with this relationship? Are you attracted to the same sort of person who really doesn’t deserve you… Did they make you feel less than you really are? This is the time to sit down and write down the sort of person you want in your life. It doesn’t have to be really long but get clear on who you want to be with and also what are your non-negotiables? What are you no longer prepared to put up with? Know your worth.

Number 7

Go to the mirror and talk to this person maybe using the words you used when you were journalling at #2. Mirror work is very powerful and has helped me so much over the years. Tell that person all the things you never got to say or that you might want to say again – don’t censor yourself. Let it all out and scream and shout if you need to.

Number 8

Start to let it go – stuff can stay in my head for a long time. I can overthink, ruminate all sorts of stuff. I then remind myself to let it all go. If possible, try to forgive that person for not being the person you wanted them to be. Even if you’re just willing to forgive, this can be transformational with moving on and in welcoming in a fantastic, loving and empowering relationship.

Number 9

If you were the one who was left at the end of the relationship – this is so painful and we can often ask ourselves “what’s wrong with me?” – Why not ask yourself “what I have learnt from this relationship?” – Release it with love and give yourself time to heal and be open to the future. Learn to love yourself completely – the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

Number 10

If you’re ready for a new relationship and don’t rush this – and after you have gone through the above steps, step into your own love story. Imagine living inside your new love story now and make choices and actions based on that love story. Know that you are lovable and worthy and enough. Your very existence is more than enough to be worthy to be cherished, adored and to give that love back. There is nothing you have to do to prove this. Know it to be true.

I hope these suggestions or tips help you to move and to find that beautiful and passionate relationship.

What does Louise Hay have to say about relationships?

So those were my 10 Top Ways to Move On From a Relationship. My work is all based on the teachings of the amazing Louise Hay. As she always said – “the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself”. This recording is so inspiring and helped me and so many over the world.

Louise Hay’s Powerful Thoughts on Relationships

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