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Calling All High Achievers

High Achievers. An image of a woman pointing to the centre of a target board. And an image of Liz Doyle the positive change coach

So many of my clients are or have been high achievers in their careers. When they come to me, they talk with pride about what they do within their work BUT there is a feeling of needing to do more and more. They often say that they are always striving to prove themselves and so that means they have to do more – be more.

High Achievers, I have a few questions for you..

If your job title or position within your organisation was taken away, would you feel you were good enough? 🤔

If you weren’t earning the salary or making the money you are making, would you feel good enough? 🤔

If these outward signs of achievement were stripped from you, who would you be? 🤔

I am not saying that working to make more money or career advancement doesn’t matter but it isn’t who we are. It is not solely why we are here.

I think we can so easily lose sight of who we truly are and I think that’s why so women want to work with me. They want to come back to that person again. They want to know their worth and know they are always good enough, without having to prove it to others or themselves.

No validation needed…

If you feel you might be a high functioning, high (or maybe over) achiever, then the following might resonate with you:

You’re hardworking (obvs) but you often find yourself overthinking and overanalysing what others say to you 😳
You’re feeling overwhelmed and burnt out because you’re so detail oriented and a perfectionist 😳
You’re ambitious which leads you to not honouring your boundaries and not being able to say no 😳
You’re organised and well prepared and sometimes wonder if you have a deep need to be busy all the time to obtain approval 😳
On the outside you appear calm but on the inside you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others 😳
Although it would appear you do well under pressure, the reality is you’re busy people pleasing, have a deep fear of failure and can be full of self-doubt 😳

I know this looks like a lot but MAGIC always happens on the other side of AWARENESS.

These patterns in our lives all start in our childhood so by going back and just observing where these core limiting beliefs came from can be so powerful. By doing this, we can start to unravel these old stories and negative messages to gently change our lives so that we can truly love who we are. The ripple effect of all of this can have such a profound on everyone around us too.

You deserve the best and you are always worthy. Just remind yourself of that.

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So high achievers, hands up 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

Or do you know some high achievers or over achievers? Maybe share this blog with them…

Or maybe you used to be a higher achiever and you’ve moved beyond always having to do more? I would love to know.

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Are You Living Up To Your True Potential?

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Yesterday, in my regular love letter, I shared this big old subject which can make some of us shudder. I know it can for me sometimes – are you living up to your true potential?

Not living up to my true potential!!

Oooh, I feel better just for sharing that and I realise that it may make me sound like some sort of high achiever but I have never ever identified with that term.

However, that question is there, sitting on my shoulder, occasionally whispering in my ear.

I went to a grammar school run by nuns (say no more) but I never reached my potential there as I wasn’t nurtured or encouraged.

I guess they did their best. But there were rigid frameworks of what academic path to take and if you didn’t fit into that shape then you were left adrift – very much adrift. I was definitely a round peg trying to be shoved into a square hole. Does that resonate? I spent most of my formative years feeling a little lost and I carried that with me for a long time until I discovered Louise Hay’s work and coaching.

Coming out of a toxic marriage was a HUGE catalyst for me to stop letting my life just pass me by. I’d had some amazing life experiences up until my mid 20’s but then they seemed to dry up (apart from having my 3 beautiful daughters in my 30’s, of course). Because of the exciting things I had been doing, this meant I had never embarked on a ‘career’ as such so was making do for a long time. Looking back, I realise I also never felt good enough to do more and so worked around my daughters which tbh, I don’t regret as those years were so precious.

I’m now 62 and am only just realising what I’m actually capable of and I am embracing it wholeheartedly.

So I am testament, it’s never ever too late. Helping women love themselves and accept themselves as they are is just life changing.

And life is also so much more than these achievements isn’t it? The richness of life is also in the smallest of moments where we just enjoy our friends’ laughter or watch a butterfly land on a flower. It really is about the rich tapestry of life and all that entails.

So what about you? Are you living up to your true potential? Is this linked to your work or maybe to other things in your life like charity work or hobbies? Or does the thought just make you shudder? I’d love to know.

The following quote has always fascinated me:

“What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”
This quote is attributed to Robert H Schuller as well as Eleanor Roosevelt

Drop me an email or a message and let me know.

Would you like to connect with your true self and realise your potential?

My diary is open if you’d like to have a call to see if we’d be a good fit or to find out about my online course, you can book here or have a peek at the rest of my website here.

This is such a perfect affirmation for the subject of living to your true potential

” I have the courage to live my dreams “
Louise Hay

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Workplace Bullying

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Have you ever experienced workplace bullying?

I had such an extraordinary session with my client recently where we looked at her blocks around her work life and also prosperity. In fact, the same session with another client, last week, was also really insightful. I am seeing a real pattern with a lot of my clients where they have experienced workplace bullying. This has normally been from their upline manager and their lives have been made so difficult that they felt, at the time, they had no choice but to leave. 😢

In a couple of cases, clients decided to start to work for themselves as they couldn’t face experiencing such potentially toxic and damaging treatment again.

The effect that this bullying has had on them has been so bad that they were physically unwell and psychologically traumatised for months and months afterwards. The long term effects can’t really be quantified.

By working with me, they have been able to let go of so much of the guilt and shame as well as self-blame around the whole situation or maybe situations if they encountered more than one bully.

We have been able to start to forgive the people involved and see where so many patterns have come from. To break those patterns is such a rewarding exercise.

I shared a post on LinkedIn (follow this link) which got such interesting feedback and here are what some women said:

“When I read about people’s heartache and leaving good jobs on numerous occasions, turning job offers down for more favourable environments, being able to talk about it openly and honestly on LinkedIn and it makes me feel thoughtful and interested when I think about all the children and all the young people in education and in schools that do not have this luxury and are left suffering, many of them feeling that they have only one way to escape from the bully, suffering trauma, unable to gain an education.”

My response; ” But I also wonder if us adults feel that we can speak up. From my clients’, friends’ and even from people commenting on this post’s experiences, it would seem they felt unable to speak up. They feel that the only option is to leave which is really very sad. The more we talk about it, the more we might see some changes take place. ”

Another said; ” Are the adults who are bullied in the workplace, the children and young people who was bullied in school?

I cannot imagine if one sailed through the education system without being bullied, to then come up against a bully in the workplace must be an overwhelming shock to one’s system.

On the other hand, I can imagine children and young people bullied in school and also bullied in the workplace, given they carry trauma from the past, unsure of what constructive criticism is, and on high alert for a repeat of what happened to them in school to happen again in the workplace, and many bullies will sense this.

My response; ” Your observation is quite similar to what I have found with some clients. It may have been bullying at school or from a parent/care giver and often, if we don’t deal with these patterns they can repeat themselves again and again in one way or another. “

S said; ” I seem to be a bit of a target. In fact, after the last time I left a workplace because of a bully, I swore I’d never go back to being employed in a workplace. Nearly 10 years on and I’m up for a job where I would have to go in and work with others. I’m almost inclined to turn it down even though I know I’ve got lots to offer because I’m afraid of what will happen. “

M’s comment; ” I have been bullied 3 times in the workplace, and left each time, I left good jobs. I run away from trouble.

When my Mother was dying of cancer one woman who was very controlling & opinionated upped her game and tried to put me under pressure. She manipulated other colleagues too. When Mum passed I had nothing left to give & left a job I loved. HR was dreadful, useless and my Manager was worse. I find that in my case other women’s insecurities played out and it manifested in their bullying nature. “

H commented; ” To be honest, the only way I’ve ever overcome workplace bullying was to leave! It’s so sad to think that there are so many people in jobs who feel they NEED to leave for their own mental health due to others poor behaviour.

I’ve left 2 jobs my my working life due to bullying, and at the time I thought leaving because of others, or because the company wouldn’t listen or even BELIEVE you, seems like the worst thing. But in hindsight I’ve learnt so much about working relationships and people skills that I know do consider it a blessing. “

Can you see a pattern with all of these comments? More needs to be done but looking back at the messages we received as children, at school and at home, can help us so much in interrupting these patterns.

After all of this response, I thought it would be really helpful to share this video which is an exercise I share with my clients. It’s very quick but can make a huge difference in lots of, potentially, challenging situations. Of course, this is another exercise originally shared by Louise Hay.

Blessing With Love by Louise Hay

If you have experienced workplace bullying, how bad was it and how did you overcome it? 💚

If you are seeing a pattern here and would like to break it, why not have a look at how I can help you here, and book in a chat with me, following this link.

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Do you feel you don’t have enough?

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Photo of a field of sunflowers and text Do you have enough? and Liz Doyle the Positive Change Coach. This accompanies the blog - Do you feel you don’t have enough?

Not enough abundance and maybe not enough money?

Do you feel you don’t have enough? Money? Love? Time? ✨

For the rest of March because let’s face it, it is the spring cleaning month (not that I have ever spring cleaned in my life), I will be sharing ideas with my community how clearing out at home creates space. It creates space for some really great ways to allow some good stuff to come into your life.

That could be more loving relationships, more joy, better feelings of wellness and vitality and of course money!

I’ve been doing a bit of de-cluttering physically recently which always helps with clearing the clutter in my mind and also just shifting some energy.

I decided to collect all the loose change in the house and I mean everywhere and it really made me realise how I think of money. If I want more money, I need to look after what I have. I know I have come a long way thanks to Louise Hay but…..

It’s been a while since I’ve done any proper collecting of money around the house and it paid me such a great lesson✨✨

I’m very proud of my £30 for myself I’ve gleaned from everywhere else in the house too, plus around £14 in larger coins which means I have a lovely bulging purse for when I pass someone collecting in the street. And I have £30+ for the charities I had been collecting for as well.

I have also sorted old premium bonds I have had for years but at an old address! 💁🏻‍♀️

From all of this activity, I have already seen some amazing things happen in just a few days – some beautiful new clients seem to have popped out of nowhere for instance.

If you would like to welcome in more abundance, and let’s face it money, into your life, why not give this a go? What have you got to lose?

How we treat money like this is very symbolic to how we’re treating money in all areas of our lives.

And how you’re allowing yourself to receive.

You have to use what you already HAVE before the Universe sends you more. You have to create a vacuum.

Why would the Universe give you more, when you’re clogging up your flow – OR mistreating what you already have?

AND gratitude brings more abundance so feel the appreciation for all you have and you just keep on welcoming in more.

So, when you have a little time to yourself, why not look for ALL the loose coins and money lying around.

Bags 👜, pockets of your coats, your drawers and boxes, down the back of the sofa! 🛋

Count it all and see how much abundance you already have. 😊

You can put it in a really beautiful bowl, a pretty money box or cash it in.

I realised that all of these coins counted towards unappreciated and unacknowledged abundance – basically a metaphor for how money is treated in your life.

Giving your money a home means it can multiply like bunnies!!! 🐰🐰🐰

Let me know how you get on – having fun with these exercises is what it’s all about too 😉🤪

I’ll be looking at how de-cluttering can bring so much more joy and just peace into our lives over the coming days so if you’d like to get some more ideas to welcome in more abundance into your life, why not join my Facebook community here?

De-cluttering is very much part of letting go. Letting go of what’s no longer serving you or what’s not good for you. That’s why it forms an important part of my coaching and of course, my online course – 21 Days To Letting Go Of The Weight as the title implies. When it comes to binge and emotional eating, it’s never about the weight or the food but about what we need to let go of.

For more information on the 21 Days To Letting Go Of The Weight – follow this link.

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Need a good cuddle?

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Photos of people cuddling each other, their animals and themselves with text - Need a Cuddle? and Liz Doyle the Positive Change Coach. Blog about the Importance of Being Held

The Importance of Being Held

The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But I’m sure you’ve read or heard that researchers have discovered that when a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a heartfelt embrace produces the hormone “oxytocin”, aka the love hormone. This has lots of benefits with our physical and mental health. It helps us to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety.

So every time you hold a person in your arms, cuddle your child, give your dog or cat (if he/she will let you!) a hug, dance with your partner, or just put your arm around the shoulders of a friend, you are doing both of you a whole lot of good.

Here are some more reasons, according to scientific research, why we should hug more:

1. Hugging stimulates oxytocin (as I already mentioned)

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress. It is the hormone responsible for us being here today! Oxytocin is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the terrible pain and trauma they endured bringing us into the world and making them want to still love and spend time with us (that does explain a lot after I gave birth). When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease so, of course, it is always good to lower cortisol.

2. Hugging Could Help Avoid Disease

Affection in the form of a cuddle has a direct affect on reducing stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

3. A Cuddle Promotes Patience

Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation for another person. We’re constantly rushing around or so it seems sometimes. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

4. Activates the Thymus Gland

Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy. I also practise a Thymus Gland activation process, I learned from the amazing energy healer, Deborah King – check out this link

The Importance of Being Held and how to activate the Thymus Gland

5. Promotes Self-Esteem and Self-Love

Having a cuddle boosts self-esteem, especially in children according to research. The tactile sense is all-important in babies, of course. A baby recognises its parents by touch at first. From the moment we’re born, our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our parents or other care givers while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Cuddles, therefore, connect us to our ability to love ourselves. Pretty profound eh?!

6. Non Verbal Communication

About 70% of communication is nonverbal. How we interpret someone’s body language can be based on just one gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. What a wonderful way to share the love and care you have for them by your embrace.

7. Cuddles Help Parasympathetic Balance

Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin can sense the touch from a cuddle which connects with the brain through the vagus nerve. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.

8. Stimulates Serotonin

Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and this causes pleasure, takes away pain and sadness. It can decrease the chances of getting heart problems as well as help to maintain a healthy weight. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces stress levels.

9. Hugs Stimulate Dopamine Flow

Everything we do involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow, the pleasure and reward hormone. Apparently, low dopamine levels play a role in the disease Parkinson’s as well as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate the brain to release dopamine. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and alcohol target. So we can get the same release by cuddling our dog or even ourselves if nobody else is around.

So get hugging and cuddling from your heart with someone you care for, an animal you love and above all, yourself. Yes, stretch those arms around yourself and give yourself a big, heartfelt hug.

And if that wasn’t enough, to receive my latest love letter with the health benefits of smiling, get in contact here.

I would also love to hear from you with your thoughts on this blog. It’s always good to hear if you find it interesting and possibly inspiring.

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Could you be a perfectionist?

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Answer these questions to find out…

Do you worry about what people think of you?
Do you beat yourself up over the smallest thing that goes wrong?
Do you have to be the best in everything you do, even if it’s something you don’t care that much about?
Are you super critical and highly conscious of your own mistakes?
When things don’t turn out as perfectly as you had wanted, do you think about the outcome obsessively and how you could have done it differently?
Are you critical and highly conscious of other people’s mistakes?
Do you spend a lot of your time getting something just right even at the detriment of your health and well-being?
Do you set really high standards, seeing only black and white (no grey)?
Are you really sensitive and defensive towards criticism?
Do you get so obsessed about reaching your goal that you seldom, if ever, enjoy the journey?

If you said “yes” to ANY of the above questions, you’re a bit of a perfectionist. The more “yeses”, the more you succumb to perfectionism

Perfectionism is another pattern coming from a place of not feeling good enough. To heal the part of you that feels you’re not enough is to be aware of when you’re falling into the perfectionist story and then to consciously choose to take baby steps to get ahead. Good enough is ALWAYS great.

Being self-compassionate for our vulnerabilities is the best way to overcome perfectionism. When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves, we can embrace our imperfections – yes really! Because, after all, we are imperfectly perfect human beings.

I love what Brené Brown has to say on the subject:

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the thought: “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” We want to be perceived as perfect but that can never happen because there’s no way to control other people’s perception of you, regardless of how much time and energy you spend trying.”

Brené also says,

“It’s in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts and create our most meaningful connections. It’s only when you are able to say, ‘I’m struggling with this,’ or ‘I think I screwed up or made a mistake,’ or ‘I need your help,’ that you can deeply connect with others soul to soul.”

This a great short clip to check out

Getting over perfectionistm

Which areas of your life might you be a perfectionist? How does it feel to treat yourself more gently and with compassion? Realising that you are good enough and you’re always doing the best you can is such an important step in loving yourself more.

If you’d like to find out more about how you can work with me, have a look at this page.

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How do you start your day?

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Do you have some morning rituals to set yourself up for a great day?

Do they ensure you’re feeling calm and yet excited for your day or do you feel tired and stressed and possibly, worried about the day ahead? If you’d like to introduce a few little things that could make a huge difference to your day when practised over a period of time, why not get my 7 Simple Morning Rituals For a Beautiful Day using this link.

If we think we can’t function before that first cup of coffee then we are giving our power away. Set your intentions for a beautiful morning and day ahead with these very easy steps and of course, you don’t have to do them all. Try some on and see how they fit and just have fun with them.

I mention having a gratitude practice as one of my 7 morning rituals – find out here why gratitude is such a game changer – here’s the link

Each day can be like starting a whole new year. You have another chance to start over. And yes I know, 2021 was another tough year and for some really, really tough.

With this in mind, it would be easy to look at the new year and even each day with a sense of – here we go again! But I have discovered over the years that by focusing on the positive, we can attract more of what we want into our lives.

That is why I changed Maya Angelou‘s beautiful quote – “This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before” to apply for this new year. We’ve not seen this one, let’s look at 2022 with the excitement of a small child and see what unfolds for us. In fact I have added this quote to my morning rituals as it’s sets the tone for the day perfectly, don’t you think?

So are you up to starting your morning so your day feels magical within the first hour of waking? Yes, honest!

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What to do when you feel anxious or suffer from social anxiety

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I still suffer from social anxiety at times. There’s my hot confession for the day! It’s nowhere near as bad as it used to be but, I think, because I haven’t seen so many people over these crazy months, it has led me to be more anxious when I do. So, these weeks leading up to Christmas are feeling a bit daunting. Do you feel anxious or suffer from social anxiety?

Below are some things I do if I find myself in the middle of a very anxious moment (this is also really helpful if you’re with someone who might be feeling frightened, agitated or worried about having a panic attack too). The important thing is to feel safe and calm.

My top 6 tips help:

1. Breathe slowly and deeply

This may seem obvious, but how many of us start to breathe high up in the chest in a shallow way when we start to become anxious? So, count slowly to 5 as you breathe in filling the lungs completely, and then 5 as you breathe out. If this is too much, try starting with 3 counts. If it works, gradually breathe out for 1 or 2 counts longer than you breathe in. This will automatically help the body to relax a little.

2. Try to think of a safe and relaxing place

This could be a favourite place in nature, somewhere you’ve been on holiday, or a beautiful garden (mine is a beach on a Greek island and Louise Hay’s was a vase of yellow roses). It helps me every time, I’m not even quite sure why!

3. Try using all 5 senses

Connecting with what you can see, touch, hear, smell and taste can bring you closer to the present moment and reduce the intensity of your anxiety. By saying out loud what you can see, hear etc really helps. By touching my sleeve or my skin when I’m really anxious, it brings me back to the now.

4. Sit with someone if you can or cuddle a cushion

Feeling someone nearby, or holding their hand or having a cuddle if it’s possible, can be calming when there is any anxiety. If you’re alone and have a dog or cat, try to stroke or even cuddle them for some physical reassurance. If that isn’t available to you either, I find cuddling a cushion is so soothing.

5. Reassure yourself that the anxiety will pass and that you will be okay

I also repeat different positive affirmations and they have helped me incredibly, especially recently with some bouts of vertigo I have been going through which have been extremely distressing – “I am safe”, “Things are always working out for me” and “I am feeling better and better” are my favourite go to affirmations.

6. Do something that helps you feel calmer

This could be going for a run, getting outside and having a walk in nature, listening and maybe dancing to music, writing in a journal, watching a favourite film or something funny on Youtube. Laughter is definitely the best medicine for so many situations and helps me get out of an anxious moment.

Let me know how you get on with the above suggestions of what to do when you feel anxious. Have you some other ideas that have helped you or someone else? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Drop me an email at; hello@lizdoyle.net.

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10 Top Ways to Move On From a Relationship

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Whether it’s been a long one or short one, moving on from a romantic relationship is bloody hard isn’t it?

Or it can be.

Even if you’ve been the one that ended it, it can leave you with an empty feeling. Or maybe just wondering will you actually ever find that deep connection and loving, fulfilling relationship.

My Top 10 ways to deal with end of a relationship

Here are 10 suggestions to help you to move on from the heartbreak of the end of that relationship:

Number 1

Create space for yourself – this is so important. Have compassion and empathy for yourself. Holding this space for yourself to allow the disappointment, the feeling of loss or maybe even anger is really really important to help you with healing process.

Number 2

Journal your thoughts about it especially if there is stuff that has been left unsaid. Write it or type it up if you prefe. Say everything you want to say. Imagine that you’re telling that person what you think, what you feel – how they might have hurt you or betrayed you or just let you down. This is such a powerful way to deal with the rumination and all that negative self-babble that might be going on.

Number 3

Sever all contact for the immediate future. You’re not helping yourself or them by continuing any communication at the moment. It doesn’t mean that will be the case forever but for now, you need to protect yourself and step away as much as you can. Of course, this isn’t so easy to do if you’re sharing a home and/or have a family but do your best.

Number 4

Unfollow them on all social media platforms. Don’t torture yourself by scrolling through their posts and just continuing to hurt yourself by looking at what they do. This is so important, especially if they seem to be getting on with their life really quickly and maybe even starting another relationship.

Number 5

Get support – get your friends, loved ones, family, whoever you can count on to support you during this time. After you have had the session where you go through it all, remind yourself you don’t need to go keep going over everything. Try to get out and have some fun with them, country walks, park runs, afternoon teas – do special things that might be different to what you’ve done before.

Number 6

Are you seeing a pattern with this relationship? Are you attracted to the same sort of person who really doesn’t deserve you… Did they make you feel less than you really are? This is the time to sit down and write down the sort of person you want in your life. It doesn’t have to be really long but get clear on who you want to be with and also what are your non-negotiables? What are you no longer prepared to put up with? Know your worth.

Number 7

Go to the mirror and talk to this person maybe using the words you used when you were journalling at #2. Mirror work is very powerful and has helped me so much over the years. Tell that person all the things you never got to say or that you might want to say again – don’t censor yourself. Let it all out and scream and shout if you need to.

Number 8

Start to let it go – stuff can stay in my head for a long time. I can overthink, ruminate all sorts of stuff. I then remind myself to let it all go. If possible, try to forgive that person for not being the person you wanted them to be. Even if you’re just willing to forgive, this can be transformational with moving on and in welcoming in a fantastic, loving and empowering relationship.

Number 9

If you were the one who was left at the end of the relationship – this is so painful and we can often ask ourselves “what’s wrong with me?” – Why not ask yourself “what I have learnt from this relationship?” – Release it with love and give yourself time to heal and be open to the future. Learn to love yourself completely – the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

Number 10

If you’re ready for a new relationship and don’t rush this – and after you have gone through the above steps, step into your own love story. Imagine living inside your new love story now and make choices and actions based on that love story. Know that you are lovable and worthy and enough. Your very existence is more than enough to be worthy to be cherished, adored and to give that love back. There is nothing you have to do to prove this. Know it to be true.

I hope these suggestions or tips help you to move and to find that beautiful and passionate relationship.

What does Louise Hay have to say about relationships?

So those were my 10 Top Ways to Move On From a Relationship. My work is all based on the teachings of the amazing Louise Hay. As she always said – “the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself”. This recording is so inspiring and helped me and so many over the world.

Louise Hay’s Powerful Thoughts on Relationships

If you’d like to find out about how your beliefs are affecting your relationships, romantic or otherwise, just drop me an email and we can book in a quick call – hello@lizdoyle.net or check out how you can work with me on this link

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Mind / Body / Spirit Connection

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Image of me with the words Mind Body Connection and Liz Doyle Positive Change Coach

It was such an honour to be invited as a guest on Nicky Davies’ podcast episode. We had such an amazing conversation about Louise Hay and how the mind and body are completely connected as well as spirit.

What is the Mind / Body / Spirit Connection?

We may have an understanding that this connection exists but how often do we choose to ignore the feedback our bodies are giving us in the form of pain and ailments? Listening to what our bodies are telling us can transform our lives. During my chat with Nicky, we talked about how Louise healed herself and how my Thyroid cancer was linked to how I could never speak my truth and I never felt truly heard.

We talk about this and so much more, I just loved taking part.

Click on this link for access to the podcast.

As Louise, herself said – “This doesn’t ‘heal’ anyone, but it does awaken within you the ability to contribute to your own healing process.”

” For us to become whole and healthy, we must balance the body, mind, and spirit. We need to take good care of our bodies. We need to have a positive attitude about ourselves and about life. And we need to have a strong spiritual connection. When these 3 things are balanced, we rejoice in living. No doctor or health practitioner can give us this unless we choose to take part in our healing process. “
Louise Hay

One might assume the mind / body / spirit connection would be obvious once we become ill, but sometimes we’re so busy chasing symptoms that we don’t really understand what is going on behind the scenes. Louises book, “You Can Heal Your Life”, lists the ailments with their possible emotional roots. It provides deep insights into how our minds and emotions affect our health. I love looking through the book on my coaching sessions as it’s incredible what comes up for my clients at this time.

Looking for a Podcast Guest?

If you’re looking for a guest for your next podcast, I’d be really happy to be featured.

I work with women, helping them to love and accept themselves more – so in addition to the mind / body connection, we could talk about our limiting beliefs, self-sabotage and lovely imposter syndrome on the podcast!!!

Email me if you want me as a guest on your podcast, or with your thoughts on the Mind / Body / Spirit Connection OR if you’d like to find out about my 6 Love Yourself Coaching Sessions ♥️ follow this link.

A little insight to my coaching and the mind / body / spirit connection

And in the video above, I talk about the importance of being really patient with yourself. Why not have a look at the rest of my channel for lots of inspiration ♥️

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