It was my Dad’s birthday yesterday – Happy Birthday Jim. I found this old photo in my box of old random family photos (he always had a smile on his face).

He’s actually been gone longer than I’ve been alive which is really making me think.

I loved listening to his stories of his childhood as a boy in West Cork in Ireland. He had no shoes in the summer, he lived by the sea but never learnt to swim and had to leave home for work when he was 15. Such was life being poor in those days. 

I don’t remember seeing him ever go out without wearing a suit and tie and he was probably the kindest, sweetest, silliest and downright most loving man I have ever known.

Our old money stories

He built up a very successful business here in the UK – a world away from where he started life and my dad sure loved the good life. He lived it large as they say. However, I now realise because of his own limiting beliefs from his early impoverished childhood and financial set point in his subconscious, he lost it all – TWICE. 

The first time I was 8 and I remember the bailiffs coming to the house and mum yelling at me to get in the house and lock the door. Until I started the work I share I was never aware of the damaging messages I received from that early experience.

The second time was really bad as we not only lost the home I grew up in but it was all shrouded in secrecy, disgrace and deep deep shame. After all these years, I have still only told a handful of people the full, sad story.

This disgrace lived with him and because mum and dad had to return to Ireland, when I was still 18, I missed him a lot. He never got over that experience – the feeling he had let his family down and later on he had a catastrophic stroke. It was terrible to watch him suffer so much.

What are your money wounds?

I have been looking at all of these old money wounds again lately and the long term affect they’ve had on me. It’s fascinating and also rather sad. But I feel deep down, for the first time, I’m really being able to move on from them. Subconsciously, we all set a ceiling of where we think our financial situation or income level should be and until we break through that ceiling, we’re stuck with the same old stories and patterns.

I’m going to share a video on our limiting beliefs which I hope you find really helpful:

If you’d like to heal your money wounds and any of the limiting beliefs that might be running the show (up until now), have a look at how you can work with me with this link

So, last night I raised a glass to my truly wonderful Dad (a big softie) who always knew he was loved. Happy birthday again Jim. ♥️