Married to or living with a narcissist?
Married to or living with a narcissist?
Or are you wondering if they are?
Here are some things to remember:
They need you more than you need them
They are jealous and envious of anyone who has more than them – even you. That’s why they try to destroy you
There is always an agenda to their generosity
They get information out of you to hold it against you later
The more you tolerate their bad behaviour, the more they think you deserve it and the worse it will get
The weaker or more vulnerable you become, the more powerful they feel
They are extremely vindictive and will make you “pay” for ANY slight they perceive you’ve made
You are made to feel as if you’re going mad because they deny nearly everything they’ve said or done after the event
They criticise your friends and family and will try to force you to alienate yourself from them.
If this feels all very familiar, life can be so so difficult for you and if children are involved, of course, it can be even worse. It could be like you’re living a life of torture every day.
Reach out – there are organisations that you can speak to if you can’t talk to anyone close. Here are some numbers.
Domestic Abuse National helplines
Specialises in assistance to obtain emergency injunctions from being further abused.
Phone: 0800 195 8699
National Centre for Domestic Violence
Specialises in assistance to get emergency injunctions from being further abused.
Phone: 0800 970 2070
Women’s Aid Domestic Violence Helpline
Free 24-hour national helpline run by Women’s Aid and Refuge.
Phone: 0808 2000 247
The Hourglass confidential helpline provides information and support to anyone concerned about harm, abuse or exploitation of an older person.
Phone: 0808 808 8141
Confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse.
Phone: 0808 801 0327
National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline
Emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people.
Phone: 0800 999 5428
Guidance on the law, how to report stalking, gathering evidence, staying safe and reducing the risk.
Phone: 0808 802 0300
Free and confidential help to victims of crime, witnesses, their family and friends.
Phone: 0808 1689 111
You are never alone.
If you are married to or living with a narcissist (or maybe you have moved on from that relationship) you are very much feeling the trauma in your body. It could be that you are worried about repeating those patterns.
By working with me over my 6 Love Yourself Coaching sessions, you can let go of the past for good.
You can write a new story for yourself AND have real hope and optimism for the future – here is a link to my contact page where you can book in a call to discuss how I may be able to help.
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