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Forgiveness

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies “

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Text - "Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies" Nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela was in prison for 27 years. 10 years in he made a conscious decision to forgive his jailers and forgave them. He knew otherwise his time in prison would break his spirit. Not long after this, they stopped beating him. He knows a thing or two about forgiveness and I think this quote is so true – “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies “.

When he was finally released from prison in 1990, he called not for revenge, but for forgiveness and reconciliation

When he was elected leader of South Africa one of his jail guards became one of his bodyguards.

Forgive, let go and in the end this gives you freedom 

So WHY forgive? 🤔

Because holding a place of “I am not willing to forgive”, you are affecting your own well-being, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

People often hold back on forgiveness because they think it condones betrayal or abuse from the other person. 

It doesn’t. Look at Mr Mandela…..

However, as long as you resist forgiveness, you are giving the other person or situation power over you. 

You are allowing yourself to be held hostage. 

In a way, forgiving others is selfish because you are choosing freedom for yourself over blaming someone else and staying a victim 💚

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies “

Nelson Mandela

Here is a really short little video about Forgiveness – you can watch the rest of the A-Z of Self-Love Playlist too!

A-Z of self-love – F is Forgiveness

What Louise Hay has to say about Forgiveness

Louise Hay says it much better than me, of course: “ We are the ones who suffer when we hold on to past grievances. We give the situations and the people in our past power over us, and these same situations and people keep us mentally enslaved. They continue to control us when we stay stuck in “unforgiveness.” This is why forgiveness work is so important. Forgiveness—letting go of the ones who hurt us—is letting go of our identity as the one who was hurt. It allows us to be set free from the needless cycle of pain, anger, and recrimination that keeps us imprisoned in our own suffering. What we forgive is not the act, but the actors—we are forgiving their suffering, confusion, unskillfulness, desperation, and their humanity. As we get the feelings out and let them go, we can then move on. “🙏🏻💜

We are never ever done with Forgiveness which sets us free – follow this link to find out more about my Love Yourself Coaching Sessions and how we can work together.

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Who do you need to forgive about money issues?

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Who do you need to forgive about money issues? 💷💰💳💶

This can be a difficult subject for so many of my clients. Forgiving others and ourselves over money issues. 

So that we can empower ourselves in our relationship with money and other forms of prosperity and abundance, we need to release limiting beliefs. We also need to practise new ways of thinking about prosperity and one of those new ways is in forgiveness.

Who do you need to forgive about money issues – did someone borrow money and not pay you back? 💷

Did someone betray you financially? 😳

Are there money issues within your family? 

Do you need to forgive yourself about money issues – perhaps you ran up your credit cards too much or wasted money that you didn’t really have in the first place? 💳🤦🏻‍♀️

Maybe you still feel you’re still treating money like that old, toxic friend you never see? You know the one!

It’s time to forgive yourself and move on

Accept yourself, right now, with your current consciousness about money.

So, you’ve made some mistakes in the past. Who hasn’t?

Everyone has. But remember, up until now you weren’t aware of your old stories that were running the show – up until now!

Now you do, so you can begin changing them and have a whole new experience with money and abundance! 

So, right now, let go of the past, forgive yourself, and be willing to create a new and harmonious relationship with money and your abundance consciousness.

Here’s a very short video about forgiving yourself from the beautiful Louise Hay and her How To Love Yourself

How to love yourself by Louise Hay – Forgive Yourself

Now say it with me

“I forgive others for teaching me incorrect beliefs”

“I forgive myself for using money unwisely in the past”

We are never really done with forgiveness of any kind. Just when we think we’ve forgiven someone or ourselves for something, some memory might pop into our head and we’re right back there again. BUT it does get easier the more we make forgiveness a part of our lives.

Forgiveness does set you free but if you feel like you’re still in that prison of resentment (I’ve been there!), maybe it’s time to look at how my coaching sessions can help you. Follow this link to find out some more.

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Forgiveness

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Louise Hay’s gentle and powerful messages of love, forgiveness and acceptance have inspired me hugely both personally and professionally. 

It can be really hard to forgive.

It is a process that can take years. I really believe in forgiving and yet, there are things that I might never be able to forgive. But I’m willing to forgive which is always the first step.

I suggest beginning by forgiving yourself for not being able to forgive in this moment!

I’ve also learned that I do not have to forgive the act itself, but I can try to forgive the person who committed it. The goal is to separate someone’s deeds from who they are as a person.

I have had a rather long, challenging and ultimately freeing journey of forgiving my mother and others who hurt me badly and letting it all go. 

If you’re not ready to forgive yet, approach yourself with gentle amusement.

Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that you’ll forgive when you are ready.

By giving yourself that kind of permission, it makes it much easier to get on with life, because you’ve opened up some emotional space for yourself and you’ve accepted where you’re at.

Here’s a little video – How forgiveness lets us free ourselves.

A-Z of Self Love – Forgiveness

Fake forgiveness is temporary, conditional, past is ongoing, motivated by fear and there is anger

True forgiveness is permanent (!), it is unconditional, you state the past is over, it is inspired by love and it takes time

True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience” 

Oprah Winfrey

Don’t judge if you see people forgiveness quickly.- it’s not necessarily fake.

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting but learning.

Many of my clients have found forgiveness one of the most powerful tools within our coaching sessions.

“But in particular, the exercises on forgiveness were incredible.

I have started a daily practice of forgiveness and it is very freeing.“

Anonymous

For more of a background about who I am and how I work with women, follow this link. And, of course, get in contact if you’r ready to set yourself free.

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