What do I mean by honouring boundaries?

Do you have a hard time saying no? 😳😳

Do you find it difficult to ask for what you want? 

Can you tend to neglect your own needs and wants? 

Can you tend to get caught up in taking care of other people at the cost of yourself? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you’re in the right place!

Do you feel it might be a good time to introduce some healthy boundaries with your loved ones?

I think that us women can have a hard time saying no to what we don’t want and yes to what we do want.

Boundaries are the physical, emotional, and mental limits we set in our relationships. They allow us to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, violated, or enmeshed in other people’s needs. 

Boundaries allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others. 

The presence of healthy boundaries helps us to express ourselves and say no when needed. We can create appropriate limits and acknowledge the same in others.

As part of my coaching sessions, we spend time exploring our current boundaries and see how we can develop healthier ones.

It could be that you’re extremely affected by the emotions and energy of the people and space around you. 

At times, it can be very hard to distinguish between your “stuff” and other people’s “stuff.” 

In the absence of healthy emotional boundaries, you can become so overwhelmed and overstimulated by what’s going around you that sometimes it can become hard to function normally. 

That can be both emotionally and physically draining. 

And this is what Louise Hay had to say about healthy boundaries:

It would not be possible to enjoy healthy relationships without the existence of personal boundaries, or without our willingness to communicate them directly and honestly with others.

To set personal boundaries means to preserve our integrity, take responsibility for our needs, and assume control of our lives.

Knowing that we have a right to personal boundaries requires us to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us. 

Our boundaries act as filters permitting what is acceptable in our life and what is not.

What we say YES to and what we say NO to defines our life.

If you think you could do with setting some healthy boundaries with your loved ones and maybe those you work with, then, have a look at this short video:

This is such a big subject and I think we’re always working on establishing healthy boundaries within our relationships. But if you find that this is an area you could do with some further help on, then follow this link to find out how we can work together.