So many of my clients are or have been high achievers in their careers. When they come to me, they talk with pride about what they do within their work BUT there is a feeling of needing to do more and more. They often say that they are always striving to prove themselves and so that means they have to do more – be more.
High Achievers, I have a few questions for you..
If your job title or position within your organisation was taken away, would you feel you were good enough? 🤔
If you weren’t earning the salary or making the money you are making, would you feel good enough? 🤔
If these outward signs of achievement were stripped from you, who would you be? 🤔
I am not saying that working to make more money or career advancement doesn’t matter but it isn’t who we are. It is not solely why we are here.
I think we can so easily lose sight of who we truly are and I think that’s why so women want to work with me. They want to come back to that person again. They want to know their worth and know they are always good enough, without having to prove it to others or themselves.
No validation needed…
If you feel you might be a high functioning, high (or maybe over) achiever, then the following might resonate with you:
- You’re hardworking (obvs) but you often find yourself overthinking and overanalysing what others say to you 😳
- You’re feeling overwhelmed and burnt out because you’re so detail oriented and a perfectionist 😳
- You’re ambitious which leads you to not honouring your boundaries and not being able to say no 😳
- You’re organised and well prepared and sometimes wonder if you have a deep need to be busy all the time to obtain approval 😳
- On the outside you appear calm but on the inside you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others 😳
- Although it would appear you do well under pressure, the reality is you’re busy people pleasing, have a deep fear of failure and can be full of self-doubt 😳
I know this looks like a lot but MAGIC always happens on the other side of AWARENESS.
These patterns in our lives all start in our childhood so by going back and just observing where these core limiting beliefs came from can be so powerful. By doing this, we can start to unravel these old stories and negative messages to gently change our lives so that we can truly love who we are. The ripple effect of all of this can have such a profound on everyone around us too.
You deserve the best and you are always worthy. Just remind yourself of that.
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So high achievers, hands up 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️
Or do you know some high achievers or over achievers? Maybe share this blog with them…
Or maybe you used to be a higher achiever and you’ve moved beyond always having to do more? I would love to know.